New partner following 18 year old on social media

[Confusedddd]

I’m 28 and my partner is 24 we haven’t been together very long but we were friends for years before , things are pretty serious he’s close with my son. Told eachother we love eachother etc and spend a lot of time together. He was on a night out with his friends last night and I’ve noticed whilst he was out he has started following an 18 year old girl on Instagram(no mutual friends) , my gut is telling me it’s somebody he has met her last night and that’s why he added her. Is this a red flag or am I being over sensitive ?

I think the age difference is bothering you. I think you don’t trust him and early in a relationship I think that’s probably enough to move on.
Sorry

@geekone I think you are probably right

Doesn’t sound great to me so would ditch

Have you asked him who she is? Could it be a relative?

You havent been together long but you consider him your Partner ? Do you live together even though your relationship is very new ? Maybe it has all been a bit rushed. You are 4 years older than him and he is 4 years older than this woman he is following on SM so the age of this woman has nothing to do with it but maybe having rushed your relationship has

@BadgerBadgerMushroom I haven’t but I think I am going to ? @omione I know what you mean I should just say boyfriend rather than partner , we don’t live together , not sure why the age thing feels so relevant to me it just does

I would. Then there's no what ifs etc.

Probably just a random on a night out? I got chatting to a guy at the bar (not flirty) and taking about what we do - work/uni/kids/partners etc, ended with "do you have Instagram?" and adding each other. Similarly, another man ended up sitting next to me, turned out he was gay so it didn't matter anyway, and we had a good laugh, added each other too.

Haven't spoke to either of them since. Could be perfectly innocent

YANBU.
It's not about age but more about life experience and, as such, sounds like you are at different places in your lives.

Dump him.

That’s keen to have even noticed that he’s following someone new, let alone to have investigated. You don’t trust him, at all, so I’m not sure this one has legs.
I personally wouldn’t be too impressed with my DH linking up with a random girl on social media after a night out tho, it does seem inappropriate. Same as giving your number out imo, which isn’t something someone in a committed relationship should be doing.

How long have you been together? You say not long, so why is he close to your son?

Yeah he’s obviously met her on the night out, which is pretty dodgy to add her

It's pretty weird but she could be a friend or family member so just ask him?

maybe this girl is easy

Seriously? Fucking pathetic.

So by 8:30am you've noticed he's followed someone new, fully investigated her and decided it's dodgy?

He was out with friends - she could be a friends little sister, she could be a friends new GF, she could be literally anyone. Having no mutual friends means nothing as not everyone is on Instagram. I am FB friends with the brother of my friend when my friend is not on FB. FFS!

If it was dodgy then surely they would have exchanged numbers and not publicly followed someone?

If it was dodgy then surely they would have exchanged numbers and not publicly followed someone?

This is why imo it's worse giving our your private number than your pretty public social media. I have loads of people on social media I never talk to, only special people get my mobile number.

You haven’t been together long and you don’t trust him. What’s the point?