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AIBU?

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Giving colleague my personal number. Aibu?

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SalemShadow · 01/08/2019 18:45

Just that one of my colleagues was updating a telephone list for our company. She made a note of everyone's work extensions and mobiles. Most people have work mobiles. She noticed I didn't have my mobile listed and my Manager and I explained I don't have a work mobile and my direct dial will do. She said don't worry she has my mobile number and I said I don't give it out or want it on a list that is shared with 5 new colleagues inc one man I don't particularly like at all. I said I didn't want it shared on a list and she said don't worry it won't be up on the front door joking. Next thing I see it's on a shared list on the Computer for every one to see and passed the list to this bloke I'm not keen on who said he would give me a call tomorrow. I'm feeling quite peeved. Am I being unreasonable? Most colleagues have my personal number but only cos we are friendly.

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intelligentPutty · 01/08/2019 18:47

Who the hell does she think she is. I'd ask her to change it straight away. That's so out of order. And your manager said not to as well.

Thegracefuloctopus · 01/08/2019 18:48

No way are u bu!! I would be fuming and emailing the manager straight away. She had no right to do that. When he calls you, block his number, likewise for anyone else from work who rings your personal phone. Its out there now so thia is your only option really. I'd be fuming

Berthatydfil · 01/08/2019 18:48

That’s terrible - she has no right to share your personal number with anyone, especially someone you dislike.
Tell her in writing that you did not consent to this and she is to remove your personal number from the list immediately. I would also inform your manager.

Socksey · 01/08/2019 18:49

Ffs.... ask her if she's paying your bill too... unless work pay for my mobile, I refuse to use mine for work....

ShitArmBadTattoo · 01/08/2019 18:50

Raise a grievance: unreasonable behaviour, failure to follow a reasonable request and also a data breach.

CreekyBeaky · 01/08/2019 18:54

She’s a twat. Tell her to remove it or you’ll be complaining. I’m not sure if this will be relevant but why did she have your mobile? Has she been contacting you about work stuff on it or does she have it for personal reasons? Ie you’re friends?

Spinnaret · 01/08/2019 18:54

YAsoNBU!
My former manager has my personal number, because he was a friend before he was my manager. One other friend colleague has it. Both phone my work number for work, and personal number for personal. I would be insisting they remove it, and those who have been given it without permission supervised to confirm deletion of the document with it in, and from their phones.

NigellaAwesome · 01/08/2019 18:56

Raise it with your manager as a data breach. They will have to inform the ICO.

AskingQuestionsAllTheTime · 01/08/2019 18:56

If it's on the computer, is it not covered by something in the Data Protection Act, as personal data you have not given permission for her to share on a computer? You should be able to get it removed instantly if it is.

CatInADoghouse · 01/08/2019 18:58

What a CF!! YANBU. Why do people think they can do things like this?! They should supply you with a mobile if they want you to have one. You pay the bill for your own personal use. Would this be breaching GDPR since it was personal data on your file that she has accessed and then shared??

Hooferdoofer37 · 01/08/2019 19:00

She was told by you & your manager not to include it, but she still did, that's definitely formal complaint time.

Plus she should be forced to personally oversee that creepy man removes your number from his phone.

Raise it with your manager tomorrow OP.

CalmdownJanet · 01/08/2019 19:13

I would be raging!! Did you not firmly say to her "Mary your not listening to me, DO NOT put my number on any list", I would definitely take this further, though they have your number noe thanks to that silly bitch

MulticolourMophead · 01/08/2019 19:29

Definitely raise it with your manager. No one should be having their personal numbers on any work list unless they have given permission.

StCharlotte · 01/08/2019 19:30

I hate this. I work for a tiny company (five of us) and we have a WhatsApp group as well. It's fine for "traffic's shit" type messages but when you're enjoying a sundowner in a Greek beach bar and some fatuous joke comes up, it pissed me right off. I have since learned to mute it for the duration.

Also annoyed that two colleagues sent on Facebook friend requests and I couldn't really not accept them. Grrr.

Motoko · 01/08/2019 19:53

Go straight to your manager and put in a formal complaint.

Bonniefoible · 01/08/2019 20:05

Go to HR you could argue a GDPR issue.

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SalemShadow · 01/08/2019 20:06

I have mentioned it to my boss. Also she became very cross with me earlier when I wouldn't give out other people's information and told her to speak to the Manager. I said no and she was getting really aggressive as wanted it for her list. Other people witnessed it and was taken by surprise. It was quite intimidating.

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Auntpetunia2015 · 01/08/2019 20:07

Surely this is a GDPR issue? Definitely have words with your manager

HappyHammy · 01/08/2019 20:08

tough shit if she got aggressive, it's the managers responsibility to sort this out. she had no right to include personal numbers without permission. if it's on a computer list you should have it removed immediately and the manager needs to send out a memo to everyone stating that phone numbers will only be circulated with the permission of those involved and staff should sign a consent form.

sonjadog · 01/08/2019 20:09

I would follow this up. I refused to put my private mobile number on the work list too last year. I was the only one and did feel a bit like I was being the awkward one, but it was something I felt strongly about. As it happened, everyone understood and it wasn't a big deal, but I would have followed the complaint up if they hadn't respected it.

simplekindoflife · 01/08/2019 20:10

Massive data breach! She has no right to do this. I'd be sending a formal email to your manager about this straight away.

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SalemShadow · 01/08/2019 20:10

I said it was against GDPR. My boss said it was against it too and she got really aggressive saying I don't understand and rolling her eyes and making out I was stupid and wouldn't take no for an answer. I left the room and she was making out o was stupid laughing about me making jokes. It was horrible.

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Sexnotgender · 01/08/2019 20:10

This is surely misuse of your personal information. You explicitly declined for her to use your personal number and she shared it anyway.

Its2oclockinthemorning · 01/08/2019 20:10

That would be a data breach if she was giving out your personal number and the company could be fined under gdpr guidelines

HappyHammy · 01/08/2019 20:11

so she's a bully as well, it's not her decision to make so don't worry, let the manager deal with it.

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