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My daughter hasn’t seen her dad in 2.5 years because he chose to cut her out he now wants her to go abroad next week I’ve said no for obvious reasons
Am I wrong to give him terms of contact ie phone calls for a period then video calling then supervised visiting

Of course YANBU!
How old is she? No decent parent would consider this a good idea!

Is it in her best interest?

If he took it to court after all this time he would be expected to take it very very slowly - depending on her age of course.

YANBU AT ALL to demand a slow re-introduction. If she's old enough to remember having a positive relationship with him (so say maybe 12ish or older) then I'd be guided a bit by what she wants, any younger than that and I'd maybe even suggest starting with a letter/video call/supervised/unsupervised/overnight.

Perhaps then a weekend away, maybe a few days in the UK. Abroad for a week is years away yet!!

I wonder what/who has changed for him to have reappeared and be asking for this level of contact?

You are definitely not unreasonable. A court would do it slowly as it's in the child's best interests to not be rushed into it...how old is she? If she's old enough to tell you what does she think about seeing her dad?

I'd probably be a bit cautious as to why he suddenly wants contact after 2.5 years

I'd be very weary... This sudden request just sounds suspicious.

Where are you based? Are you both the same nationality? And where does he want to take her? Plus how old is she?

Many many red flags imo.