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Comebacks to DM

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Aligatorsnaps · 01/08/2019 12:03

We are on a family holiday and generally it’s been better than usual. My DM is the rich matriarch of the family that believes this gives her the right to say pretty much anything she wants (she was undoubtedly a big support to DF in his work but she was a SAHM). There has been little opportunity for her to do the usual belittling of my DH as I think she has finally got to grips with the fact that actually we get on well together, have happy DC and a successful business (tho DB - the golden child often refers to it as a business that would not sustain in bad times tho it has gone from strength to strength in 10 years or something he can do as a side to his much more important work - a view she has too) is kind of more important than the fact that she doesn’t like his family (whom she literally never sees) or DH wouldn’t be ‘her choice for me’. However, whilst there has been little engagement from her on anything of substance about our lives (even tho she lives a massively gilded life she doesn’t like any perceived threat to her position as she would have course been able to do anything I can do better) she has taken the opportunity to focus (again) on my weight and how I need to sort it out. She isn’t wrong. I am overweight. But I feel that it’s a little bit insulting to concentrate on that one thing so I was wondering if anyone had any come backs that I could use.

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Almostfifty · 01/08/2019 12:14

Mine said something similar to me once, not long after I'd had one of my DC. I told her to keep her nose out of my business.

She was fond of little digs, but I called her out on every single one and she eventually got the message.

mussolini9 · 01/08/2019 12:20

DM "you are overweight Aligator"
Aligator "Is that a fact?!" - walks away laughing to self & shaking head in faux wonder

DM "you have put on weight"
Aligator "my body, my choice, my timescale"

DM "you need to do something about your weight"
Aligator "the only thing you can control about my weight is to refrain from boring on about it. Please do so right now."

DM "drone blah weight"
Aligator "sure, I've got a few extra pounds at the moment. But you are rude & belittling - can you diet that off?"

DM "nasty digs about weight"
Aligator "are you feeling ok mum? Because this obsession with somebody else's body seems to be becoming compulsive ... do you feel you need some therapy to help you with it?"

Aligatorsnaps · 01/08/2019 12:25

Thank you Mussolini - that really made me smile

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Weezol · 01/08/2019 12:31

"I can loose weight if I want - can you loose the attitude please?"

"I don't find criticism particularly motivating"

"If I loose the weight, whatever would we have to talk about"

"That's right. I'm overweight purely to give you something to pick at. I'm providing you a service here, a bit of gratitude wouldn't go amiss"

"How is it you taught me manners but are incapable of using them"

"You know, if you say something often enough, it just becomes white noise"

Sallycinammonbangsthedruminthe · 01/08/2019 17:22

Kevin! Kevin! You owe me 50 quid!!! you shreek joyously
Why is that darling? says Kevin
Yes why is that ?says Mum
Well mum Kevin and I had a bet before about how if you would start on about my weight..I said you really would but Kevin said you wouldnt because you wouldnt want to belittle me...I won...
then walk off and eat a cake!

Seriously this is my mum too.The only time she mentions my weight is when her weight affects her...Its weird.She has been dieting for over 45 years and surprise surprise not one ounce lost due to the fact she eats everything in secret.She kids herself and tries to kid us too.I too am overweight but she takes out her insecurities on me by re focusing her issues and trying to make me feel awful to feel better herself.I get a full on onslaught atleast twice a year...I ignore it.I dont even react...and she hates that.I figure the best response to such behaviour is no response...

ElizaPancakes · 01/08/2019 17:33

My standard comeback to stuff like that is “thanks for the feedback”. Just deadpan it and don’t otherwise respond.

cuppycakey · 01/08/2019 17:45

Fuck Off should suffice.

ranoutofquinoaandprosecco · 01/08/2019 17:49

Mine once commented I'd put weight on I was a size 10/12 at the time she was 20+ I responded with "at least mine disappears when I stand up"!

Nautiloid · 01/08/2019 18:14

I don't comment. Literally blank it.

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