Neighbours are really starting to irritate me

[LongIslandTea60]

I've moved to a more rural area than I lived before about 6 months ago. I've come from a busy housing estate to a lovely quiet rural location with elderly neighbours - perfect I thought.

Everything was fine through the winter months but now the lighter nights are here.....

Every weekend without fail they have their friends over and sing/shout/sweat until very late. The man who is 70 gets particularly drunk and is incredibly loud and lairy. Previous weekend to last was the last straw for me and i went out and asked them to keep the noise down at 11.30. They sit right outside their front door, which is adjacent to my front door chain smoking so my porch stinks of smoke. My sons bedroom is on the front of the house where they sit and he is woken up several times by their loudness. After I spoke to them they quieted down but weekend just gone it was the same again.

They also have daily bonfires - any time of day so you cant predict. I hang my washing our whilst I go to work and by the time I've got home if theyve had a bonfire whilst its been out it stinks. Same if I leave the windows open, I come home to my house stinking of bonfire smoke.

I am reluctant to same something as I really dont want to fall out with the neighbours after only being here just a short time but I'm starting to get sick of it. AIBU here or are they being selfish?

Things won't improve if you don't speak to them. Ask them not to smoke next to your porch and at least give you notice about their bonfire times.

Keep a diary of when the bonfires and when you have a few incidents, report them to the council. It's an offence to have fires if they cause a nuisance.

And every time they start making a racket outside your little boy's window after he's gone to bed, go and ask the noisy fuckers to be quiet.

Fit a smoke alarm near your front door which will be activated by cigarette smoke.

I worked for a small hotel and no smoking was allowed near the building to prevent smoke going in the building. I don't know what the regulations are for private buildings. Where I live there are no restrictions on bonfires but its worth checking if there are restrictions in your area before asking people to be a bit more considerate to others.

Just goes to show that older folk are not necessarily nice and quiet, and younger people noisy and lairy.

We have had about 10 different sets of neighbours that we have been attached to over the last 30 years, and the best ones by a country mile have always been younger - sometimes a generation younger.

When we were early 30s our NDN were 19 and 20, and were lovely.. So quiet and considerate, and always kept the music down, and we only heard any noise (which was minimal) when they had 5 or 6 mates around. Then a middle aged couple (50-ish) moved in, (after 3 years,) and were really loud and obnoxious. They played loud booming music, and had REALLY loud sex, and had the TV very loud... Often leaving it on when they went out to the pub for the night (7pm til 11pm) to 'deter burglars' so they'd think they were in!!

I had 2 small kiddies at the time, a baby and a toddler, and they couldn't sleep because of the loud noise/music/TV.

When I asked them to please turn it down, she told me she will do what she likes in her own fucking home.

We put the house up for sale a few months after they moved in.

When we moved into our next house, a man aged 65 lived there, and had a fucking soundbar for his TV, and it BOOMED through the house. I wanted to cry as we had moved from the frying pan into the fire! We could not afford to move again for ages.... Luckily, 6 months later he moved, and a young mum moved in with her daughters aged 10 and 12. They were lovely, all of them, and we lived in harmony for 7 or 8 years until we downsized to a smaller home.

We currently live next to a 25 y.o. couple (they moved here 3 years ago,) who are lovely. Really considerate and kind. The people before that were a 30-something couple who were rarely there, so we had no issues with them either.

Our neighbour who lives across the road, lives next to a man aged 55 who plays loud music constantly and acts like he is fucking 16!

If I were you @LongIslandTea60 I would contact the council and report them. Sod the consequences. It can't be any worse than the noise!

Not saying all older folk are a PITA and all younger folk are fab BTW. Just in our experience this has been the case.

We lived above a 58 year old woman years ago. She seemed really nice and helpful when we first moved in. Come Friday night, her bf would show up and all hell would break loose. Loud music, drinking, smoking weed, swearing, loud sex. Inevitable fight at 2am underneath our window. Every single weekend. He’d leave sun night and she’d be completely normal again all week, until the next Friday. It was awful. We moved after 6 months.

Our neighbours now are an early 20s couple who have a toddler. They’re so lovely. She often pops over during the day for a chat and cup of tea while her dc plays with mine

I totally agree. When we heard the couple were in their 70's we were over joyed. Now it feels like a nightmare.

I just know the response will be that they have to put up with my children playing outside in the holidays but I am always telling my children to not shout and play nicely.

Are they trying to get rid of you - sounds like it.

At any rate, you have to tell the. How their behaviour is impacting on you and your childrens chronic asthma with Smokey waxing/clothes and smokey entrance.