Previous thread details my original problem www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/3641599-To-ask-for-anaesthetic-for-coil-fitting?noti=1#88933225
I’ve just got back from seeing my GP; she’s worked in sexual health for over 20 years, fitted my first coil in my twenties, arranged my termination in my forties 😕 and now she’s willing to stand up to the two male consultants who refused me sterilisation after I’d had the termination (not to mention persuaded me to have a second Mirena fitted under GA while they “fixed” the botched termination, despite my saying I hadn’t got on with it first time round).
She thinks if the Mirena caused cramps and bleeding, the copper coil probably will too. Diaphragm not reliable enough, and she completely understood why I don’t want to get back on the hormonal contraceptive Merry-go-round at my age. So, sterilisation it is.
What really made me emotional was when she said, “At 44, you really shouldn’t have to be patronised by a consultant regarding your own body and life choices.” YES!!! That’s exactly how I felt, railroaded into decisions that didn’t feel like they were mine to make.
The pisser is though that the NHS clinic database for the initial consultation didn’t give her the option to choose a “sympathetic” surgeon (FFS it shouldn’t be like this) for me to see. So the plan is that I’m going private for that — thank you credit card 😏 — and I’ll see a female surgeon who my GP knows and trusts. She will also write a letter of support to back up my decision. Then NHS for the op.
Thank you all for your advice and experience on the original thread 
Very much appreciated and really helped clarify my thoughts. I can’t tell you how relieved I feel! As the GP said, at 44 I could still have another decade of (albeit patchy) fertility, and this will finally take the termination-induced terror out of sex for me. GPs get so much flak but I did say “I could kiss you...and you don’t need contraception for that!” as I left!