where you the bully? aibu

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I know in a way I am not being unreasonable, but I would like others opinion's
Nc for this as this could be outing.

Bully's in school in work and basically in the world.
Why do they get away with it?
My DD was bullied relentlessly in school, to the point that they showed up at our house and threatened her.
I went to the police to school and NOTHING was done
and they carried on.
I confronted one of the evil little cows and she got her dad to come to the house shout at me, I was 32 weeks pregnant at the time.
Again the police did nothing.

With all the recent media attention surrounding bullying, and kids committing suicide why is nothing been done?

This forum is another place where bullying is rank because people can hide behind keyboards

Mobile phone Vigilantes I hate them, videoing people to place on social media to ridicule for likes.

The poor person at the end of it being targeted by thousands of people? just so someone can go "viral"

what alarms is when the innocent loose their rag and try to retaliate,
they are made to look like the bad ones?
Why?

What sick pleasure do you bullies get from this?

Are you genuinely thinking a bully is going to come on here and defend themselves? I was bullied terribly as a child myself so can empathise however yabu and strange in thinking a bully is going to own up and explain their reasons to you on here 🤷🏻‍♀️

Bullies don't think they are in the wrong, its entitlement.

I do somewhat disagree about your comment on this site though, I've never seen a forum so ruthlessly moderated.

There are lots of excellent points in the OP’s post, that will be deliberately missed by the folk who think AIBU is all about enjoying a good kicking session of another individual.

The forum is well moderated, but for legal things, or direct insults. What is allowed to happen however is a pervasive culture of well-written, snide and aggressive posts being allowed through because they’re on topic and not outing, illegal or racist - yet they are often deliberately written in an aggressive way that could upset, shame or belittle the OP.

Anyways back on topic - the person who said “OP did you expect the bully to come on here and defend themselves”...?! For god’s sake why do people do this - of course the OP didn’t. They are talking about the culture of bullies and bullying in general. not expecting some nameless person to suddenly appear in here as if summoned. great way to avoid discussing a topic though..

OP I hope you don’t get rubbished for this post, all I can say is that hopefully you can surround yourself with people who are not insecure, who are positive, who elevate you

I've been bullied throughout my life starting at secondary school and I've come to the conclusion that, subconsciously, people are reacting to it as a pecking order issue. Instead of addressing the problem, they're more inclined to see it as natural behaviour and are reluctant to challenge the bully as they're just seen as asserting their position, which they're entitled to do.

I find it best to avoid the bully, if possible, or to try and leave the situation. We had to change ds' school and then finally withdraw him after ongoing bullying issues (he has aspergers). I've also left jobs due to it and even moved house (I'm also aspergers). I think bullies are best left to it as nobody will help address their behaviour and challenging them makes it worse as they get angry or find it fun and do it all the more.

I was bullied at school and still have murderous thoughts about particular people. But thinking as an adult now - i was quite a little cow myself, just never thought i was hurting anyone, just "messing about", "having a laugh" etc. The whole school culture was pretty much - "why bother being nice and friendly if its so much more fun to be an arsehole AND you get away with it anyway"