To miss my mom

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I've just moved out with my boyfriend into our first house. We both previously lived with our parents. I am enjoying living with him and our new kitten (to help me settle in) but I just miss my mom so much? It brings me to tears at times. She only lives round the corner so I can go home whenever I like. We've been here for 3 weeks now and I see/speak to her everyday but it's not getting any easier?

I lost my dad back in January too and although I didn't live with him I feel very vulnerable at the moment and it's almost made me cling to my mom more?

Is this normal to feel like this? I feel okay in the afternoon/evenings but it's the mornings I feel really down and just want to be back home? I feel I am being silly but then another part of me thinks so much has happened in such a short time and I just don't know how to move past it? AIBU to feel this way?

I was a bit homesick when I first moved to university, but I didn't miss mum so much as lifestyle and friends as I'd moved 4 hours drive away. It didn't last long.

I think your feelings are excessive as she's only down the road. Stick with it and your confidence will grow hopefully. Remember she's only up the road if things go tits up with your boyfriend.

Oh OP. How lovely that you’re so close to your mum.

Grief is a funny thing - it can shake our foundations and it’s really natural that you’ll hold tight to your mum.

It will get easier. Have you told her you miss her? Talking it through might help.

Finally - YABVU to not post a picture of kitty!!!!

I think it is nice you have such a good relationship with your mom. It is normal that it takes some time to get used to your new ways. You say it is worse in the mornings? Seratonin levels are at their lowest in the morning, so often you just have to shake the feeling get on with the day and after an hour or so things clear up. You are in grief and it takes time, too. Make sure you take a vitamin D supplement, if you lack vit. D, you feel depressed more easily.

It's a new and exciting life for you, perhaps you don't feel you are as ready for this as you thought you would be due to your circumstances, but I hope you will get there, grief is a horrible thing.

Best of luck 😘.

You probably feel this way because your dad recently passed. Don't feel bad about it at all, it's lovely to have such a close relationship with her.

Sorry to hear about your dad

Thank you all for your lovely replies! Definitely made me feel better!

Yes my mom is aware and misses me just as much. We are both teachers so the 6 weeks has also made it harder as I'm used to doing something with her everyday, but luckily we still can but it just doesn't always feel the same.

I think losing my dad has made it harder because it's almost like another loss?

Thanks PP, will look into vitamin D as I am probably low!

I think losing your dad is most likely a big factor here - losing a parent usually destabilises your foundations and can make you feel less safe and secure. It's natural you'd want to hold tighter to your mom (and anybody else precious in your life).

Just be kind to yourself and remember you won't feel this way forever (it even changes throughout the day, so when you're struggling it might help to remind yourself it will probably have eased in a few hours).