to be pissed off at friend's neighbour

[Twiglett]

none of my sodding business I will admit up front

but this neighbour, very nice woman, seems to leave kids on my friend really frequently

oh and today I was round there, friend gave birth 6 days ago .. so I went round to chat, took her older kids (7 and 5) out .. made lunch and cleaned up like one does for someoone with new baby ... and whilst there neighbour sent her children round 3 times to drop things off

and then when I was leaving, taking her kids with me so she can rest for afternoon ... they were bloody knocking on the door again so I said to them to tell their mother that friend was resting

what is wrong with some people?

Would annoy me - I am also protectve like you towards a friend who I believe is put upoon by her nieghbours and seen as a general childminder because she has a bigger house and garden.

I now try really hard not to be there at the same time - which is'nt always easy as one of her kids is always knocking about. She has 4 and friend only has 2.

Depends what they were dropping off I suppose , Baby gifts? Freshly prepared food to be reheated later?

neighbour is packing to move and sending over old stuff from her kids that might be useful for baby (although as friend is on 3rd child I'm sure she's got most things) ..

why can't she put them all in a pile and send over in one lump when her DH is home?

seriously is none of my business and friend would never get narked about it

Oh yes, see what you mean now. Agreed, bloody annoying but at least she's moving soon!

maybe she knows your friend well neough to know that she doesnt mind.

she would never ever say she'd mind about anything. She would bend over backwards to be of help to anyone and never complain once.

She had a baby 6 days ago!

yes that is what i thought. the neighbour obviously knows she doesnt mind that sort of thing and that its not a problem for her to do it.

but are you missing that she had a baby 6 days ago?

tell me if you'd just had a baby and were getting used to sleepless nights, breastfeeding, hormonal re-settling etc would you be happy to be bobbing up and down answering door to a neighbour's kids all morning? or would you want to sit down, deal with baby and have friends and family take care of you?

no i wouldnt be happy about it for me. but for a friend who doesnt mind its fine.

I actually think she does mind, she is just too polite to ever say anythign and bends over backwards to make people feel good about themselves

she's just that kind of person

you're right though in that its not my business .. I just think any friend would think twice before bothering someone with a newborn .. unless they were bothering them to be of help

i think that there should be a note on the front door.

me? i didnt say it was none of your business. if your friend does mind then its wrong.

oh sorry I'm a little knackered 'cos of insomnia last couple of nights .. no Hannie you didn't say it was none of my business .. I just feel it is none of my business but am still narked

have to say that the neighbour is in general a thoroughly nice and generous person .. just don't understand why she doesn't get that friend might appreciate support and help atm

I think anyone who pops round uninvited to someone with a new baby is out of order. Neighbour, close friend, family or whoever. I would never DREAM of doing this and would always call or text to see if it was OK for me to come over before turning up!

Hope your friend is doing OK Twiglett...