Should I start thinking about changing jobs?

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I was dating ex-bf for about a year, we broke up 2 months ago. We work together so I still have to see him all the time and I’m struggling to get over him because of this.

We aren’t in contact outside of work and don’t socialise in work, any conversation we have is only about work. I’ve come home today and cried again because I’m finding it really hard to see him and not be with him. I feel really pathetic to still feel like this after being broken up for a while but I don’t know how to get over him while I still have to see him all the time. I don’t know if giving it more time would help or if the only way I can start to move past this is to see if I can get another job somewhere else? Anyone else been in the same kind of situation, how did you start feeling better about things?

Will getting another job help your career? can you look at this as an opportunity rather than something you have to do?

I still think you'll be sad, it's part of breaking up but agree if you were somewhere else you might find it easier

Whilst YANBU, you need to remember that this is a risk of dating colleagues. People do break up but it can be really problematic if you work together as you have to constantly see each other.

I would ask if there is any chance of being able to move departments so you don’t have to see him as regularly. If you really feel that you can’t cope then maybe you should consider moving workplaces.

Sorry I couldn’t be more helpful. Hope you get this sorted out

Do you like your job otherwise? Have you been there a reasonable amount of time? Are you gaining good experience there or have you learnt most things already? Do you like your other colleagues? Are there many other job opportunities in your line of work? Can you take a step nearer your dream job by making a sideways move?

If career-wise it would be better to stay in this job, how about getting a new boyfriend instead to distract you from the old one?

Time will heal. Don't give up on an otherwise good job for a man who you already know you can't be with.