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To feel guilty/ insecure about earning more

22 replies

WinnieTheCat · 30/07/2019 19:46

I've just started a new job and feeling quite guilty about my wage. I haven't told my colleagues what I earn, but judging from what they've said about pension contributions and tax, I seem to be on about £2k more than most of them.

Our jobs are slightly different but I wouldn't say mine was any harder than theirs. I do have more work experience, as some of them only left uni less than a year ago, but nevertheless, I feel guilty as I don't think I'm worth the money if they're getting that much less.

It worries me that the bosses will decide to get rid of me in probation, as I'm more expensive and no more valuable. I haven't told anyone my wage as there would be uproar.Confused

OP posts:
Chottie · 30/07/2019 19:48

Do not tell anyone what your salary is. You are paid what you are worth. End of......

Neverender · 30/07/2019 19:49

£2k is nothing really (not being rude), my teams pay varies between 21k and 30k as they all have differing expectations/levels of experience. Don't feel guilty!

avalanching · 30/07/2019 19:50
  1. why would you discuss your salary?
  2. your boss will know what your salary is, assuming you mean £2000 a year more that is small fry, they're not going to get rid of you for earning that much more, the job would have be graded to that amount for a reason and your boss will know why.
Screamanger · 30/07/2019 19:51

Don’t feel guilty, your experience is worth something, besides £2k isn’t that much in the grand scheme.

FadedRed · 30/07/2019 19:51

Why would you want to discuss your salary with your colleagues? Non of their business. Keep it to yourself.

user1480880826 · 30/07/2019 19:51

£2k more really isn’t very much. I wouldn’t worry about it. Don’t discuss it. Don’t think about it.

Lovemenorca · 30/07/2019 19:51

£2k a year?! That’s peanuts after tax and broken down per month.
Don’t sweat it

CmdrCressidaDuck · 30/07/2019 19:53
  1. £2k a year is nothing comparatively
  2. you SHOULD be paid more than fresh grads.

Your salary is not the problem here, your impostor syndrome is. If anything it sounds like you're probably UNDERpaid if you have relevant work experience and grads are only on £2k less.

BogglesGoggles · 30/07/2019 19:53

Do you mean £2k more a month?

Original poster
WinnieTheCat · 30/07/2019 19:58

£2k more a year

OP posts:
Wishihad · 30/07/2019 20:00

This is a total non issue. In my last job I was on 5k more than most. And we all started at the same time.

I refused to work for them unless they met my expectations. They wanted me, they paid it. It's really that simple.

Yabbers · 30/07/2019 20:09

2k more a year? That’s peanuts.

topcat2014 · 30/07/2019 20:11

I have never told anyone my salary, (apart from DW), and see no reason why I should.

Rystall · 30/07/2019 20:12

You are waaaaay overthinking this.

That’s not a big gap in the grand scheme of things. That’s obviously the market rate now or else you negotiated it. Either way you deserve it. If your colleagues are on older style contracts, they may well have perks that you don’t have ( retirement age, annual leave, contracted hours etc). Honestly this isn’t an issue. You’ll have this your entire working career - sometimes the discrepancies are many many multiples of what you’re concerned about.

Congratulations on the new job. And don’t worry about being vulnerable. That will happen when you’re earning £100k more than your colleagues ( which happens!)

TeachesOfPeaches · 30/07/2019 20:16

You've got more experience so of course you should be paid more .

Scottishgirl85 · 30/07/2019 20:20

Without sounding rude, 2k is literally nothing in an annual salary!

CmdrCressidaDuck · 30/07/2019 20:27

Seriously, if you're this worked up about 2k, then you have the worst case of impostor syndrome I've ever seen. You need to get that sorted out.

Banangana · 30/07/2019 20:33

Do not tell anyone what your salary is. You are paid what you are worth. End of......

I'd say that most people are actually paid the lowest amount their employer can get away with paying them and this secrecy around salaries only benefits the employer.

But OP, 2k isn't anything to get worked up about especially if you have more experience.

alwayscoffee · 30/07/2019 21:01

If your company didn’t think you were worth £2k more they would have continued the recruitment process rather than offering you the job. Congratulations

workhelp1 · 30/07/2019 21:04

Are you sure they aren't paying student loads and their net pay is lower due to that?

Pipandmum · 30/07/2019 21:08

They wouldn’t pay it if they didn’t think you were worth it. You need to up your self worth - if you don’t feel you deserve it you are not going to succeed.

KelpieMama · 30/07/2019 21:09

Why would you expect to be paid the same as people who have less experience? Does your experience not have any value?

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