I think I'm hard work

[AirRaidShelter]

Hello. I dont know why im posting this really but does anyone ever get the feeling they are hard work?
i seem to have had so many friendships and everything is fine but they stops contacting me. I dont really want to ask what the problem is as id be mortified if they told me something awful

i dont think im great yabbers at all. I wonder if the problem is me so if i thought i was great i wouldnt question myself

But you have listed all your wonderful points.

What are the things about you which make you think you are a problem? Until you actually look for those, you won’t get an answer.

I doubt it is your problem- relationships take effort on both sides. I have found that caring less and being, in my old terms selfish, or as o now see it focused on balancing my needs has worked better for all. I gave gas a shake out of some old 'friends' but now I am much happier and probably easier for those I now choose to spend my time with.
The only problem is your comment assuming that this is a fault of yours.

If the problem is you (and it may very well not be), have a think about the following:
Do you smell bad? Remember clothes need to be clean, not just you.
Bad breath? Many people still have bb despite good dental hygiene
(I am sorry if the above sounds patronising, it's just that most people with these issues are not aware of them)
Is there anything in your life which you are particularly bitter about and might talk about a little too often?
Are your opinions on world events/politics/race/sexuality etc. a little extreme?
The people you say have stopped contacting you, is there anything which they have in common? It might be that you and a certain type of person just won't gel.
Do you go on about the DC a little too much?

BTW, I am not implying that you do these things, I'm just trying to help you get to the bottom of things. There is every possibility that other people are the issue, not you.

I'm not one for sharing personal things, where as so many people, especially women, tell you evvvvverything about their lives. I think that's why I've never really had friends. Like you, I've been told I'm so nice, such a great listener, so trustworthy, blah blah blah, but I think my lack of sharing makes it hard for people to really relate to me. It's ok, though. We are who we are!

What were you talking about when they were making faces? (Very rude of them by the way!)

Could you just have incompatible views like you believe in horoscopes and they're all scientists or you love the tories and they're all socialists?

You wouldn't want to be friends with people who make faces anyway.
Could you try a club where people share your interests?

OP your comments suggest you've got very low self esteem. Which may make people less likely to treat you well. Plus could you be attracting the type of people who only want convenience in a friendship (out of sight out of mind).

Don't assume the problem is you though. People really can just be dicks.

Aquamarine's point about not sharing personal information was a bit of an epiphany for me

I have heard more than one person I know feel like this recently. Is it the ‘modern’ way of treating people? It seems very immature.
I’m sorry you’re being treated this way, it is unkind.
True friends and people worth knowing do not make faces. A mature person values humans for who they are and remembers that no one is perfect.
I hope you find friends who value you.

@LimitIsUp

Are you similar to me?

Yes I think so Aquamarine, - friendly, chatty, good listener but don't give a lot of personal information away and keep things a bit close to my chest