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To think I can’t walk around the living room with babh one more time!

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RubyPurple · 29/07/2019 21:29

My baby just wants me to hold him and walk around with him all day long. I put him in a sling when I can but god forbid I ever sit down. I’ve been walking around my tiny living room in circles for the last two hours and it’s driving me crazy. These days it’s too hot to wear him in a sling outside and if it’s not too hot it’s raining. He won’t take movement from a bouncer, swing, moving pushchair. He just wants to be on my shoulder all the time. My arms are killing me!!

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Readytogogogo · 29/07/2019 21:30

How old is he? I do remember those days. It gets better, I promise.

KatnissMellark · 29/07/2019 21:31

How old is he OP? Do you have some support? Can someone take him for a few hours?

The early days are sooooo hard, but they pass Flowers

Teacakeandalatte · 29/07/2019 21:32

Dont make yourself ill over this if you need to put him down then he will be fine even if he does cry. He might not like it but as long as he is safe, as comfy as possible and you are close then fgs sit down and have a cuppa.

RedSheep73 · 29/07/2019 21:32

Sad Been there, it's so hard. It will pass eventually.

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RubyPurple · 29/07/2019 21:33

3 months. Passed the 12 week mark on Friday and was hoping to see a difference Lol silly me

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Lou573 · 29/07/2019 21:34

Oh, I had this. Looking back I wish I hadn’t pandered to her so much and just sat down. She would still have been held and comforted and apparently they get used to it quite quickly and give up on insisting on being walked around. This is my plan for number 2 anyway!

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RubyPurple · 29/07/2019 21:34

Good to know I’m not the only one. When does this stop?!?

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Lou573 · 29/07/2019 21:41

Until she could get herself around a bit - 9 months! That’s why my advice would be to get her used to you sitting down. On the plus side I walked off all the baby weight pretty quickly!

kidsmakesomuchwashing · 29/07/2019 21:41

I agree with@Lou573 sometimes you have to do what you want to do. They might have a scream or a shout but let them, they will quieten down after a few mins.

Rosesarere · 29/07/2019 21:44

We use to call it the 4 foot rule, my little boy wasnt happy unless I was standing up walking around with him, he was such hard work as a baby, always crying, he is now the most loveky 6 year old, hold in there, it does get better

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RubyPurple · 29/07/2019 21:53

9 months Shock

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tashakg89 · 29/07/2019 21:56

Oh god I remember these days with my first. Literary had to walk around all day, didn't even like going in a pushchair, I did sometimes try putting him down but he would cry so much he'd turn hysterical. Mine was like it till he could walk. does your lo sleep well/ have set naps? Only thing that kept me sane.

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RubyPurple · 29/07/2019 21:58

He sleeps well at night but pretty crap with daytime naps and no routine. We are going to work on that now!

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carly2803 · 29/07/2019 21:59

Mine tried this occasionally, i did not comply - fed/changed/temp ok etc , put in a bouncer and off to make a brew - in sight. They cry but its tuff. It wont hurt to cry a bit while you make a brew OP!!! for your sanity i advise this.

Now older, distraction techniques work, toys, dummy, anything

Tootytata · 29/07/2019 22:03

OP have you tried using a Hip Seat?

https://www.hippychick.com/products/hippychick-hipseat

I know you'll still be holding the baby but this helps take the weight off your arms.

I have an 11 month old and she also loves to be held! I'm hoping this phase will pass when she becomes more mobile. Good luck! Smile

sewinginscotland · 29/07/2019 22:08

Is the yoga ball an acceptable substitute for walking? I spent many an hour on that when DS was little.

He stopped needing to be held all the time at 9 weeks, each child is different so it will get better! He's got such a happy temperament now, you'd never believe that he wailed 6hrs a day between 3 and 9 weeks.

Try sitting down when he stops crying. If he starts crying, stand up and walk again, sit down when he stops crying. Eventually he will be happy with you sat down. Then work on his sleepy signs and getting him to nap (it took us a while to work out how to get him to nap - straightjacket blanket wrapped tightly around him, dummy and muslin to rub against his face - but that was the key. At 12 weeks, he should have roughly a 1.5hr awake window, get him to sleep if you can.

Many hugs, it's hard! 12 weeks isn't the magic window, but eventually it will get easier and you'll never realise when it happened, it isn't a bolt from the blue.

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RubyPurple · 29/07/2019 22:08

He’s too small still for the hipseat :( (3 months)

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RubyPurple · 29/07/2019 22:12

@sewinginscotland good idea. I need to train him on this!

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tolerable · 29/07/2019 22:14

sing.loud asfuck.and clap.anything..

SlackerMum1 · 29/07/2019 22:14

98th percentile DD didn’t demand to be carried around all day, she did need to be walked and bounced for hours at night until she was nearly 12 months..... I can offer no useful advice about your baby but perhaps some consolation from that experience - you’ll have the best upper body strength of your life with ZERO bingo wings... sooooo that’s something 🤷‍♀️

Faybaline · 29/07/2019 22:16

Have you seen the item called babocush it's like a rocker come bouncer I've just read an article about it a woman designed it for her baby son as she couldn't put him down because he wanted her to hold him she later found out he had silent reflux and the babocush has become a best seller hope this helps

sewinginscotland · 29/07/2019 22:19

That's what I did. Once you get him to nap in your arms while seated, you can get him to nap in his cot. Or sometimes just having a plan is a lifesaver and gives you something to work towards.

BertieBotts · 29/07/2019 22:22

I was going to ask if he was three months! DS1 was a bit better after that age. DS2 didn't seem to go through it. He's been chilled from birth.

tolerable · 29/07/2019 22:22

my babe didni cry,didni get a chance,dad or ds 1 always stealing him from cot...my little sister did tho(to be fair she wasnt a well baby)i was 4 but vividly remmember my poor mother

TheBabyAteMyBrain · 29/07/2019 22:25

I second the yoga ball, it's a bloody miracle. Ds2 was simular to yours and I swear I wore a path down in the carpet walking backwards and forwards. Sit on the yoga ball, bounce and rock, watch crap on TV then once asleep just plop on the sofa and feet up on the ball.

It does get better I promise, the most annoying but true phrase in parenting 'it's just a phase, they will grow out of it'