I employed a pa for my disabled daughter and immediately saw a change in my husband..found out they were messaging each other incessantly, begged him to stop but wouldn’t and told me I was ridiculous and they were just friends. Fast forward 6 mths and he’s arrested for messaging 2 15 yr old girls inappropriately on messenger..was given a caution. I stood by him but things got fraught with the stress, we agreed to sell the house despite our disabled child then being without much needed facilities. Whilst in rented accommodation I caught him messaging the now ex pa, he said he loved me and wanted to renew our wedding vows so we proceeded to buy another house. On moving in day he announced he wasn’t moving in and left me and our children in a house of cardboard boxes that was barely livable. Now 12mths later he’s told our kids he is now in a relationship with our daughters ex pa!! Like that’s a shock 🙄 he thinks I’m being irrational and out of order because I’m angry... this guy has made me feel I was actually going crazy for 2 years!!! Aibu to be mad?