To wonder how much contact with the ex is too much?

[Zippylove]

My bf of six months has a six year old and has been separated from his ex-gf for a year. They broke up because of her infidelity. I find the contact he has with ex fairly hard going. They are in contact throughout the whole day and must exchange more than 50 texts per day. Mostly about the dd which is fine, but sometimes the ex texts him about her current bf (he's a bit of a shit) and just general things. I haven't met the dd yet but the ex knows about me. Something minor happened with bf's pet (used to be her pet too) and my bf sent her a pic of the incident. The ex went away with her bf and their kids a few weeks ago and she sent my bf photos of the accommodation. Is that even normal?!

I don't even send 1/10th of that amount of texts to my own boyfriend- or to anyone. Do these people not have jobs to go to?

seems overkill

i would be running for the hills tbh although they have dc , 50 texts a day about dd ? really ? why does he need to know about her shit new boyfriend. so many red flags for me it's like a labour convention !

I don’t know. It all depends on their relationship with each other and their dd, and also what kind of people they are.
On the one hand, it could be that they’re unable to let go or want to get back together.
On the other, it could be that they realised they weren’t right for each other but had a really great friendship.
If it’s the latter then it could be good for their dd.
The real question is what it means to you, and really you’re not going to know completely until you have the conversation with your boyfriend. If it doesn’t sit right and you don’t think you can deal with it, take yourself out of the situation and move on now rather than subjecting yourself to misery and jealousy.
I’d probably hate it if I was in your shoes, but maybe you’ll feel better if you talk it through and potentially meet her?

It's a lot of communication, but this comes from dating a man with kids. He'll always have a reason to be in touch with her.

They seem to have settled into a very friendly relationship now..which is good for their coparenting.

Not so great for future partners though. I wonder if her BF knows she moans about him to her Ex. That's not healthy IMO. I'd be out of the relationship.