To find this a bit odd?

[starfishcoffee]

I probably am BU, but I feel a bit weirded out & wanted some opinions.

Saw an item for sale on Facebook marketplace and messaged the seller to ask if it was available and if I could have it. Seller replies, all good and very enthusiastic. It's furniture so I needed to ask my friend who has a van when he could collect if for me - I tell her I'll let her know when I can come but not to worry about holding it for me. Seller messaged 3 days in a row, really upbeat and cheerful messages to ask when I'd be collecting. OK, fair enough. I let her know I'm trying to sort it out and apologise for taking a while. Seller then messages to say that it's completely fine, proceeds to offer me extra bits for free & tells me she's re-painted and polished the item especially for me. Not necessary, but kind of her(?).

Another day passes and I message her to say that I can't collect and apologise for wasting her time. She tells me that it's absolutely fine and she will move it to her other house (closer to where I live) for me. Says I can take as long as I like. I don't really know what to say at this point as I felt I'd made it clear that I can't get it and would rather she didn't hold it for me.

Then she removes the item from marketplace, and adds me as a friend. I've got no mutual contacts and we live in different towns. She also called me babe & hun in every sentence if it's relevant.

Oh, and I get that I was being irritating by not being able to sort the van out. But the strangest thing was she didn't seem annoyed in the slightest. Just seemed extremely enthusiastic - almost flirtatious.

Don't accept the friend request, block her and forget it. But yeah she does sound a bit odd.

I think she's trying to be friendly and possibly a bit lonely. She might have a mild personality disorder or some level of autism though, because not picking up on your disinterest and cues could be a sign that she doesn't understand things in a neurotypical way, or that she understands but is ignoring those signs (although sometimes these things can be hard to understand if you're mostly texting/messaging). Regardless she's obviously not for you so don't accept the friend request and move on.

@starfishcoffee

Maybe she is flirting with you?

Maybe she's hoping she can flog you other stuff

“Sorry I don’t think I was clear enough. I won’t be able to collect the item so it’s best you try for another buyer. Good luck!” Then reject friend request and block when she’s read it.

She could be flirting with me. But she also kept bringing up the fact her boyfriend would be around too when I go to collect. I'm not sure why it was relevant in the slightest - but it does mean she's in a relationship.

I would assume that's she's been trying to get rid of the item for ages and now she's found a buyer she's not letting you go quietly 😁

I always mention dp will be here when arranging for someone to buy something. Even a woman. I dont know who you are or your mate with a van. I want you to know I wont be alone.

Makes total sense.

She sounds just sounds possibly overly cheerful and friendly to me. It may genuinely no bother for her and she just wants it to go to a good home.

Just tell her she’s very kind but you don’t have any options left to transport it and have just purchased one new with delivery.

@Wishihad

Totally get that. But she first told me it was just her, and then twice said her boyfriend would be there (in two separate messages) and then changed again and said it would be just her. She kept updating me on whether she was going to be alone or not.