That sister shouldn’t talk to me like shit?

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Sister came round to spend the weekend with me. We met up and had some food, then she came back to my house. I live in a really nice flat share with a big room, TV etc. I was using my phone on loudspeaker at very low volume to register a new SIM card - she became angry that it was on loudspeaker and hid the piece of paper that I was using in revenge 🙄 I retailiated and hid something of hers, she left the house, all ridiculous.

Round 2: she came back, we made up, I cooked her dinner and she had a shower. Essentially made her feel at home. She’s relaxing in the nice bed, all very relaxed when I ask her for a chocolate. “No, they’re mine...” we have another argument...

Fast forward to this morning, she’s working on her laptop. I gently touch the outside and ask what it’s made of. “Don’t touch my laptop please!” Ad infinitum

While I accept that I also could have handled things better, Aibu to think her pettiness is ridiculous? On way hand she’s happy to accept my hospitality and take take take, but she never gives back. What’s mine is hers and what’s hers is hers too it would seem. Funnily this seems to apply to all arenas of my life. She insists on meeting my friends but I have always been kept at bay from hers

Are the two of you very young? Tbh all of this sounds very minor and you were as bad as her.

Not young at all, 20s

Agree. You both sound about 12 4.

You two are bickering like... sisters. You have to get that you’re grown up and don’t need to act like this (you are as bad as each other).

Appreciate it’s minor but it’s what it represents. I feel like I give so much to her and she never reciprocated

I feel like I rarely retaliate though

Then you should sit down with her - like adults - and have an adult conversation about it, where you say how you feel and why and agree some rules and boundaries so you both feel respected.

I also think you sound like teenagers but would add that it can be difficult not to regress when you're in your 20s and around family - being mindful of it and discussing it openly and respectfully may get you past it.

I'm not sure what the issue is with any of these things? You lightly touched her laptop and she asked you not to? Just roll your eyes and move on, and don't touch the laptop.

What's the big room with a tv got to so with anything?

I don't understand what the problem is. You bickered. Stop bickering

“Often” is not never though OP and your first example is you retaliating.

Having your phone on loudspeaker when someone else is in the room is inconsiderate. It's not surprising she was annoyed. Sounds like you both need to be more considerate of each other and a little less convinced that you are perfect. Sounds also very much like my sister and I when we were in our early 20's. We have barely any contact now (we're in our mid 40's) as we didn't manage to sort it out. If you can, I would take a deep breath and really look at whether this is a relationship you want to nurture. If so, give a little more and take a little less and see whether that's reciprocated.

I suggest you avoid each other. This is ridiculous.

You both sound as silly and petty as each other.

You both sound abought 8.