Friend trying to set me up with her ex

[Monique679]

Friend went on one date with someone, don’t think she feels a connection. But she keeps insisting that I meet him/that she sets us up. I don’t understand why?! I’ve said multiple times I don’t want to (in a nice way) but still she persists. Feel like there’s any underlying reason but can’t work out what

Say exactly what you just said to us- to her?

One date is hardly an ex. Sounds fairly innocent to me, if a bit unusual.

I said ex for brevity in title

I don’t want to offend her but she keeps messaging about it

She must feel he'd be perfect for you somehow .

My sister once told me to get out to the pub ASAP as there was a man who she was sure I would click with. I arrived and he had the charisma of Alan Partridge. I asked why she thought I'd like him and she said 'I didn't fancy Lee (my XP) and I didn't fancy this guy so I thought you would' WTF??

Perhaps he's got a common hobby like knitting ...or playing a flute.

That's intriguing. One date is not an ex so unless you're certain you couldn't even spend one evening with a man that a mutual acquaintance thinks you'll get on with, why not!

Once my flat mate set me up with her colleague and I did really like him. Perhaps not romantically although I did sleep with him eek but she was ON to something. I did almost REALLY like him!

I wouldn't class one date as an ex, I was going to say how odd that was but not so much in this case. I did similar with my best friend, I went out for a drink (so not strictly a date but still) with someone I met online and everything about him was just her type! She reluctantly agreed and they've been together for 3 and a bit years and are engaged. I guess it would be weird if anything had happened between us.

How is that her ex?! One date?!!

She probably thinks he’d be a good match with you and you should give him s go.

Are you single/looking for a relationship?

He clearly isn’t an ex of hers.

Bit click-baity. Not an ex, someone she went on one date with.

She probably thought he’d have lots in common with you or be your type.

He's not her ex. The 'underlying reason' is most probably that she thinks you're well suited.

My sister has been married to our other sister’s ex for 35 years 😂
Really though, if you think she has an agenda or you’re really not interested, she needs to stop pushing it.

He probably keeps asking for another date and she's hoping she can pass him off to someone else. That or she thinks you have a lot in common. Just ask her why she keeps pushing when you have said your not interested

Does she feel a bit guilty about letting him down so is trying to pass him off onto you so she can feel a bit better?