To ask you to settle an argument

[saywhatsaywhat]

Please help me settle a debate between me and DH.

Our DD went into our neighbour’s house tonight to play with their DD.

DH went to get DD to bring her home before dinner and about an hour later I get a text message from my neighbour apologising for the state of her house. She’s at work and it’s her husband who is in. They’re having work done and the house is a bit of a riot. I get it - we’ve all been there.

But it turns out when my DH went to get DD she was upstairs playing and he just went upstairs to get her. I wouldn’t dream of walking upstairs in someone’s house without being invited to do so.

DH is pissed off that a I’m affronted that he was so forward. I’m assuming he didn’t just let himself into the house but how he managed to get upstairs im not sure about but he definitely did it of his own volition.

Am I being completely ridiculous? I just feel like he’s violated the neighbour’s privacy.

I think if he had said to dd dad, i’ve Come to get dd, and he acknowledged this, then that would be fin.

Fine

I wouldn't want anyone walking into my house and wandering off upstairs like that. It is different if you are a visitor and go up to the bathroom, but even then I would say something like "Is it okay if I just use your bathroom?" to the host. (If they said no then I don't know what I'd do, probably leave a puddle for them to clean up!

I would have to be very familiar with someone before I went upstairs in their house without checking with them first.