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Original poster

to feel slightly miffed?

19 replies

namechangingregular · 31/07/2007 21:04

i have been looking after a relative's children for two days and nights. since sunday .

i have done all the stuff that you do for two kids plus put up with a not inconsiderable amount of whinging.

they've just been picked up (oh i was minding them because of a childcare problem) and the parents didn't bring me even a bottle of wine or a bunch of petrol station flowers.

ami wrong to be a bit pissed off by this?
because i am.

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VeniVidiVickiQV · 31/07/2007 21:05

Well, a bit wrong.

Family do these things out of love, dont they?

NotQuiteCockney · 31/07/2007 21:06

I don't think you're wrong, really. Did they sound thankful? Did they promise to return the favour?

Is it possible that they are planning a nice thank you, but didn't have time to get it organised?

hunkermunker · 31/07/2007 21:06

Maybe they're sending you something beautiful in the post? [optimistic]

Did they say thank you?

floopowder · 31/07/2007 21:07

NYANBU next time say no. Heh could you have my 8 next week for 2 days for nowt. Thanks in advance.

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namechangingregular · 31/07/2007 21:07

well yes . but it's a bit 'taking it for granted' isn't it?

my sister had my 2 for 2 nights a while back and i got her lovely flowers and wine as a thank you-because it's hard work.

i knew they wouldn't-i knew they would just take it for granted. just a bit sad to have it confirmed.

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TotalChaos · 31/07/2007 21:08

I agree with NQC. I hope they sort out some sort of pressie soon

MotherFunk · 31/07/2007 21:08

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namechangingregular · 31/07/2007 21:09

i always remember their anniversary too and buy them wine or something and they forgot our 10th anniv this year, and then said 'oh shit we forgot didn't we?' and STILL didn't do anything about it.

Maybe i expect too much.

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hunkermunker · 31/07/2007 21:09

Did you do it for the gift at the end?

hunkermunker · 31/07/2007 21:10

Are they good company?

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namechangingregular · 31/07/2007 21:10

they just had a childcare problem so i took over.

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namechangingregular · 31/07/2007 21:10

no i didn't do hunk. i did it because they are family and i was able to help out but i just feel taken for granted.

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hunkermunker · 31/07/2007 21:10

I'd rather have fantastically warm, friendly family than ones who buy "appropriate gifts".

Obviously I'd like fantastically warm, friendly family who ALSO buy appropriate gifts...

MotherFunk · 31/07/2007 21:12

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namechangingregular · 31/07/2007 21:13

they have looked after my kids once and kept phoning to see when i would be home. i was at the hospital.

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namechangingregular · 31/07/2007 21:13

ok i am being unreasonable.

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StarryStarryNight · 31/07/2007 21:16

So, it seems a little one sided? You buy them gift, you help them out, maybe they just dont have resources (financiall, emotionally etc) at the moment?

I had two years of being a "taker" rather than a "giver", from the final stages of pregnancy with my youngest till he was around 18 months.

Has it always been like this witht this couple?

If so, stop bothering.

MotherFunk · 31/07/2007 21:18

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