Aibu to think this is selfish or is it understandable in tve circumstances

[Northernsoulgirl45]

So dh does have a long term medical condition. I have aswell but mine does not affect me so much.
Sp last nigh we went to bed, had sex and I went to sleep. Dh isn't sleeping that well so was probably awake more.
We have a fan on the floor my side of the bed. In the middle of the night dh asked me to go into the spare room as I was blocking the air from him.
The other room does not have a fan. Aibu to think this is selfish or us it a reasonable request in tbe circumstances

Why couldn't you swap sides?

He need tp be on that side of the bed to swiing out the right way although thst shouldn't be an issue soon and all his stuff is on that side so no room for a fan that side.

It's pretty selfish. He's basically saying you have to sleep in a room with no fan so that he gets more benefit from the fan in your room.

Can you move the fan or get another one for his side?

No way to move the fan to the foot of the bed so that you both get the benefit? If not, buy a second fan. Not fair for only 1 to get the benefit.

I think it is selfish.

What do you mean by having a fan on the floor - is it a tall tower or pedestal fan or just a small low one?

Can't you use an extension lead and put a tower fan at the foot of the bed in the middle so you both feel it?

If it's too hot to sleep then surely it's too hot to have sex?

Will try foot of bed thing tonight. May work with am extension lead. Only problem is it will be in the way if he needs the loo.

He just needs to invest in a fan and make space on his side of the room for it.

I get it that that wasn't an option in the middle of the night, but if he needed to get cool it obviously wasn't reasonable to say you had to do without a fan. He could have put a damp towel over himself or something similar.

Then you can tell him to stay in the spare room because he's disturbing your sleep.

I really do feel for him on the sleep situation as sleep deprivation is the worse. All the years I was a sahp I did virtually all the night wakings to protect his sleep. I even moved me and youngest out of the bedroom during a really bad patch.
For the last month he has been off sick and I have done everything I have had fairly broken sleep but much more than him. He just doesn't seem to get that by our old rules my sleep needs protecting as I am effectively a carer for 4 people, a home and I have two small jobs.
I tnink I need to articulate this ferling to him or it will breed resentment.

Go out today and buy another fan.

Already have.

Install a ceiling fan. I have one in every room of my house. With global warming, you will need them and they cost less to run than air conditioner.

Sit the fan on a table so it's not on the floor and air circulates over you, that's what we do (fan is on DH side).