Advice needed on my son

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My son is nearly 3 he a beautiful boy very loving when he wants to be but he's also very boystrous (excuse the spelling)
His birthday is 29 Sept he will be 3 n he don't talk he understands some things I say I'm really worried he don't say mum he will say bye n hi no yes n he points at things he just won't talk he does hi fives n fist bumps he constantly rocks back n forth when he sits down he was suppose to start nursery in Jan but I don't think hes ready for it
he got 4 older sisters 16 13 5 n 4 he doesn't really play with the younger ones he hits and smacks them ive tried the health visitor but she just said he will in his own time that was about 6 months ago now n still no change
Please anyone with advice

Can you talk to the GP about your concerns?

Some of these are indicators of ASD, but equally at his age, some could be just fairly typical developmental delays that he may catch up on.

It's a bit impossible for someone on the internet to diagnose him (and I say this as someone who routinely did assessments for children for ASD/ADHD/etc) based on what you've described.

Can you video his more troubling behaviors while you wait for a consult and potentially a referral?

Thanks for replying
I never even thought of anything like that I thought that he was maybe a little slow he hates change he is still in nappies and still has a bottle through out the night I'm just at my wits end now not knowing what to do when he trys to sleep during day which isn't allowed I tell him no sleeping and he lashes out at me kicking punching biting

I would ask for a referral to the community Paeditrician ,the Health visitor should be able to do this , as that would get the ball.rolling for assessments etc my son has complex disabilities,and we had portage when he was 3 they work with pre school.Children who have or possibly have development delay .

I will definitely go to see the doctor or health visitor we are going on holiday Monday so will make app for when we get back
Thankyou for replying really appreciate it

My DD1 didnt speak until she was 3 and 3 months. She said a few words but only simple ones and not a lot. I sent her to nursery the day after her third birthday. She speaks absolutely fine now (shes 12) I think nursery helped.
She does have ASD. We didn't know that then, although we suspected something as she exhibited other traits. But DD2 also didn't talk until she was 2 and a half and she's fine, in fact she rarely shuts up!
Go to your GP and talk about your concerns about his speech. The sooner you get any issues diagnosed the more support your child will have.

In fact my DNephew didn't speak until late and they discovered he had severe glue ear, grommets in and his speech improved so quickly with the help of a speech and language therapist. There could be something very simple that's causing it, including he's just not ready. Especially if he has older siblings that speak for him. DD2 had 2 older siblings telling me what she wanted and what was wrong so she never needed to.

I work with children your sons age and I would recommend that you speak to your health visitor or GP. They will be able to identify what should happen next and talk with you about it. There are definitely some behaviours there that need to investigated more and he sounds like he needs some help with his communication and talking. Some services take a long time to access so good to get the ball rolling sooner rather than later. When is his birthday? Will he go to school next yr 2020 or 2021? Either way nursery will be good for him as they can help support his skills and may be able to offer you advice that could help too. He could just do a few short sessions if you don’t think he will manage much more than that, again talk with the nursery about it when you choose one. Good luck and well done for being honest about him and your concerns as it’s not always easy to do but the best way to get things in place that can help you both x

id ask to be referred to specialist health visitor. Thats what I did with ds2 who was showing early signs of possible autism, and they referred him for a (very thorough, over the course of months) assessment.

Another thing he does when he angry is headbutt the floor I told the health visitor about that as agin I was worried he was Guna hurt himself and she said it was a temper tantrum and he will grow out if it I will definitely go to the gp and explain everything

Hi everyone got back from holiday had a great time although my little boy loved the first night there I thought great then next day and night and rest of holiday didn't really like it spent every night in the clubhouse sat under the table and wouldn't move
Guna see health visitor next week

Welcome home! Hope you had a great time. I think it’s def worth a chat with health visitor just explain everything as you have here.

Thankyou and yes health visitor Wednesday
Will explain everything to her thankyou all so much for your advice and support means a lot