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DH's password

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MamaOomMowWow · 26/07/2019 23:45

DH uses the same password for everything. I feel this puts our bank account at risk of identity fraud because if any one of his accounts is hacked it would be easy to access them all. We have joint bank accounts together.

AIBU to be annoyed and tell him more bluntly that he needs to stop doing this? I have told him this before but he doesn't take it seriously and is still doing it.

When I need to log into one of my accounts I normally have to stop for a few seconds to remember the password or maybe even take a couple of goes, but it doesn't normally take long. He is nevertheless always saying that I am being silly and should just use the same password for everything like he does. He seems quite smug about it. I find this infuriating as I keep explaining to him that's a terrible thing to do from a security standpoint.

When I have told him that he really needs to come up with new passwords before and suggested that he write them down in a book which he can keep in a safe place before he has refused and will only use different ones if I remember them for him. I have enough of my own to remember and I think he's being a ridiculous and lazy man-child who expects me to carry all the mental load for everything (I don't want to drip feed but he expects me to give him multiple reminders of his own relatives birthdays etc).

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MamaOomMowWow · 26/07/2019 23:47

*relatives' birthdays

Sorry missing apostrophe!

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Username9641 · 27/07/2019 00:05

So dangerous. There's a website called "haveibeenpwned" where you put in your e-mail address and it comes up with a list of all the sites where you've used that email address which have been hacked, and your passwords probably/possibly exposed. I did my two main e-mail addresses and quite a number of websites came up for each where my details have been hacked, with big ones like LinkedIn etc on there.

It's also common to get spam emails containing your passwords, which hackers have gained from hacked websites, where they try and scam you for money based on the fact they've got your password so you may be more likely to believe them when they say they've recorded you watching porn or whatever (seems to be quite a common scam at the mo).

There are things like Keepass databases which encrypt passwords which he can download and use if he really can't remember different passwords!

Percypigparade · 27/07/2019 00:13

Can't he use a keychain thing to remember the passwords?
I've had a scam email like that and even I was scared (before remembering they didn't have a video of me watching porn as I never watch porn! But seeing my password in their email was scary.

Lellochip · 27/07/2019 00:34

I got one of those emails, and as I used the same password for everything for about 10 years (I know, I know... I work in IT too Blush ) I have literally no idea which of the 100s of websites they got this from.

I went round changing all the main ones I could think of, social media, Spotify, main shopping ones like Amazon but there'll be loads more I can't remember. I now use automatically generated ones for absolutely everything, and use LastPass to keep track. Tell him to not be stupid like me, and spend a few minutes updating his accounts!

If you know his one password, I'd change it yourself, for anything tied to your bank account? If you're feeling really petty, you could change every single account he has, and not tell him what to, but that may not solve the argument Grin

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