To expect a 3 YO to be in bed way before 10pm?

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At risk of sounding like a right judgmental bitch here so fully expect to receive some flaming.

Our neighbours 2-3 year old (not entirely sure on exact age) is up most nights past 10pm, tonight I can hear her up now shouting & talking (11.15pm). I did consider maybe it's potty/toilet training but it's all the time!?

I know it has nothing to do with me, doesn't particularly bother me I just think it's very odd to have such a little one up so late and then have her out in the morning before 9am. Surely that's not enough sleep!?

AIBU? I'm just counting my lucky stars my 5 YO is in bed by 8pm!

My kids are in bed at 7 every night with a few exceptions.

I must be very boring, british and dull. I love it!!!

It's fine for her to be up. It's also fine for her to be asleep at 7. Kids of this age need roughly 12 hrs sleep in 24. This can be achieved in a number of different ways.

It's pathetic to judge any parent for doing it differently to you and that includes calling them "british and boring"

It would be a cause for concern if the child was significantly sleep deprived of course.

I know a family who never “remember” to put their DC to bed. Their DCs look permanently exhausted, like zombies and have the most horrible mood swings, zoned out in school, struggling to pay attention and want to be permanently in front of a games console where they can zone out even more. It’s really sad tbh. But hey, that’s just different strokes for different folks, right?

My children were always in bed and asleep by 7 pm ...in fact they were absolutely shattered by 6 but I kept them going until 7 !! They are now teenagers and keep the same hours as their friends....I was lucky 🍀

3 year olds who need sleep shouldn't be up until 10pm

3 year olds who don't need much sleep should.

DH and I are workaholics. DH functions at peak on 5 hours sleep. If I am asleep by 11 I am often awake at 5. Neither of us slept well.

DS slept from about 11 until 6ish from five weeks old. It took two years for us to realise that was his pattern. Life was thoroughly miserable during the ten months or so we put him to bed at 8. He was usally up from 1.30 until 5.30. He wpuld chatter and play and learn things. Eventually I realised that if I put hom to bed at 10.30 after he had seen daddy who got home at 9.30 and sat with daddy as he ate supper and had a tiny bit of his supper on a tea-plate, he would happily be asleep by 10.30 and sleep until 6ish. I was much happier and a much better parent if I got a solid six hours sleep.

DD needed a bit more sleep but not much.
Neither were ever tired in the morning, neither had problems getting up or were ever wan.

I have always operated on the principle that a child should go to bed when it is tired and ready to sleep - I have never had 'bedtime battles' - my oldest child is now a medical student (who, at the age of one, used to love dancing along to the Newsnight theme tune!).