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The cringe...

21 replies

Withnailandaye · 26/07/2019 19:15

This really is a non issue so don't read if you're time precious as you'll waste a good 1min out of your life.

My ex and Dds dad loves playing father of the year by showing me all the wonderful things he does with dd.
(Tbf to him he's not a bad dad. Him and dd have a great bond and he tries hard in his own way)
Thing is, he doesn't know that I know, most the lovely day trips he 'takes' dd on are actually his dms doing, and the pictures he sends to me are actually pictures his dm has sent to him and he forwards them on to me, leading me to believe that he's really doing his bit. But now dd is of an age where she drops him in it and his dm tells me anyway.
I just humour him to keep the peace. And really, aslong as dd is having fun and safe, I don't care.

Well he's just failed again.
He starts to send me numerous pictures of some play park thing, lots of pictures telling me how fabulous it is and she had such a good day etc etc.
That's when I see it, a water mark at the bottom of one of the pictures of the photographers name. I then notice that some of the trees in the background are bare so clearly the picture hadn't been taken today (in the summer) 😳
He's only bloody gone and got pictures from the net of this playground place, screen shotted, cropped them (badly) and sent them over to me pretending that's where he had taken dd today 😳
(Also noticed that out of about 7 pictures, there wasn't a single one of dd in)

Thing is, I KNOW she was at a water park today as he sent me the pictures (I'm yet to find out if he had taken her himself) so why go the extra mile and do that??

Of course I questioned him on the obvious screen shots and he said that he had forgotten to take his own pics whilst there so just got some off the net to show me what it was like.
🙄

Lier lier pants on fire. Smh..

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MyFokMarelize · 26/07/2019 19:21

He sounds a bit eager to please! It is very cringey!

ThomasRichard · 26/07/2019 19:21

He sounds very odd. Who does that?!

RuggerHug · 26/07/2019 19:24

It's not often I get to say this these days but

Scarlet for his Ma for havin him.

Xenadog · 26/07/2019 19:25

Why haven’t you called him out on his lies? It Is beyond cringey; this is downright weird!

Nautiloid · 26/07/2019 19:26

That's utterly bizarre.

littlepaddypaws · 26/07/2019 19:28

i'd be talking him to about the lying and i don't think i'd trust him tbh for anything.

MayFayner · 26/07/2019 19:28

😂 rugger

justthecat · 26/07/2019 19:29

Sounds like he spends more time pretending to spend time with her than he actually does, which is very sad.

Needcoffeecoffeecoffee · 26/07/2019 19:29

It is very odd.

Although I'd be so tempted to get creative with photoshop and have dd on the Sydney harbour bridge, grand canyon, meeting celebrities, scoring a world Cup goal etc Grin

RandomMess · 26/07/2019 19:29

Why bother to engage with him, just ignore his messages?

Cringe indeed

Withnailandaye · 26/07/2019 19:30

xena i do call him out in a subtle way.
Like just there I asked him why he was sending me screen shots and he gave his above reason and I just didn't reply.
That way he knows I'll know but I haven't given him any bait to start an argument with.
He hates being called out on stuff and it just causes issues I cba to get involved in.

Yes it's very bizarre.

It's like he knows he's not doing enough in life but rather than just owning it he tells all these lies to make his life seem.. more?
I go between feeling sorry for him and finding it amusing.
Idk but yeah it's weird.

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Babymamamama · 26/07/2019 19:32

No that’s actually very weird I wouldn’t be able to humour that at all. Is he a fantasist?

ysmaem · 26/07/2019 19:35

That's really really weird. Is he maybe trying to show off not his fathering skills but maybe trying to show off to win you back?

Withnailandaye · 26/07/2019 19:35

Sort of babymama

But if I call him out on it it will cause me so much shite so I let him crack on.

He's not a total fuck up he just does this to impress me I think.
I agree it's sad he doesnt send the time with dd himself but he's most likely at work so his dm (who he lives with) takes her places and he steals the glory for it Grin

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RandomMess · 26/07/2019 19:37

What does his Mum say when you comment on "DD having a lovely time at x with her Dad?"

SallyLovesCheese · 26/07/2019 19:40

Does he know his mother is telling you it's her taking your DD, nor him?

It seems so odd to continue with the lie once discovered...

Withnailandaye · 26/07/2019 19:42

She'll just realise he's lied and try brush past it. Or there's been times I've said to dd "oh you looked like you had fun at xxx!"
And ex mil will drop him in it for not being there.

When we first broke up (almost 4 years ago) it caused some drama when she told me she had been looking after dd and ex was nowhere to be seen. I went off it so now she's careful what she says.

I'll also know as some pictures he sends have "forwarded" on the top of them (it's on whatsapp) so I know he's just gone and forwarded me pictures that have been sent to him. Not sure if he's clicked onto that yet.

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foreverhanging · 26/07/2019 19:43

That is just so bizarre!

Withnailandaye · 26/07/2019 19:44

No me and his dm keep it between ourselves or he'll make things difficult.

I just feel its good to be in the know and keep drama to a minimum.

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RandomMess · 26/07/2019 19:44

I would make a point of thanking his Mum for taking her out and all the things she does with her.

Withnailandaye · 26/07/2019 19:46

I do random Smile shes a fab grandma to dd and we're all very lucky to have her.

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