Sorry in advance this may be long. I've been married 10 years (3 children) I want to leave my husband because I feel he is abusive, he says I'm breaking up the family and should give it one more chance. Things will set him off and when he gets angry he becomes really nasty, shouting at me, calling me names, swearing at me and getting in my face, if I try to leave the room then he blocks my exit so I can't and he grabs me arm. He has smashed a hole in th bedroom wall before and thrown things at me. In more recent years he has tried to control his anger more and is just verbally abusive and stopes me leaving etc. The most recent time he had arranged to go to a BBQ with friends and they were going to pick him up, he then decided me wanted me to take him instead but I didn't have time as had time sensitive work I had to do for my job, he then spent about 30 mins calling me a fucking lazy bitch. This evening he has been shouting at me as I said I wished to divorce that he will never allow it and I will go to hell when I die for eternity if I divorce him. He said as it's not all the time then I should forgive him and he will never do it again. And I will destroy our family. I can't leave as I have no family and nowhere to go. Should I try again? I don't know if I'm being over dramatic, he doesn't hit me so he says it is not domestic violence