Should I say something?

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I have tried so hard to get on with my SIL (DHs brothers wife) but I really dislike her. She is patronising and self-centred always talking about herself or interrupting other conversations to talk about her hobbies or work. Every time the family gets together she does something that annoys me; most recently clicking her fingers to get my attention instead of saying my name and running her finger along the bookshelf for dust when she stayed at our house, seemingly small but does little things like this constantly. I’m pretty sure she has no idea I feel this way despite my clearly very unimpressed facial expressions whenever she irritates me.

Should I call her behaviour out or is it just not worth it to make the relationship awkward?

Only you know if calling her out or just having a quiet word would get a result. She might not realise and then change or it’ll piss her off ... but no one on here will have any of idea of how she react.

It is rude behaviour though.

I wouldn't answer to a click. Just ignore it.

I would say something if she was looking for dust - that is incredibly rude.

If she clicked her fingers to get my attention she'd be told to fuck off immediately!

She sounds just like the SIL in Mum - have you seen it?

OMG, I remember my SIL clicking her fingers at me for a drinks refill when we hosted Christmas for all the family. I went inside without saying a word, (or filling her glass), and snarled at my DH and BIL (their brother) 'she clicked her fucking fingers at me'. . . they looked as if they were trying to figure out where to hurl themselves and hide, and were obviously terrified I was going to go nuclear (as if. No WAY would I ruin Christmas by creating a scene). But I did rather firmly tell them that I would not be pouring another drop for that wee dear the whole time she was there. . . and I didn't. They fully, sympathetically, and gratefully, agreed.

So I totally sympathise OP.

I recommend not confronting her, but each time she does such a thing, abruptly removing yourself and ignoring her.

Thanks good advice - I definitely will do!