To run away?! I can’t do this anymore!!

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But I have this overwhelming feeling that I just want out!! I want to f**k off to somewhere for good!! I am not able for my own dc!! They are driving me insane, I cannot manage them at all!! They won’t listen to me, they don’t care! They are such hard work!! No SN! Just bloody brattish behaviour that is driving me nuts! I can’t even leave them play with sand in the garden without there being a commotion! They don’t follow the simplest instructions eg please don’t take the compost and put it in the brand new sand!!
I am currently sitting on the bed having put them into separate rooms to have a time out because I tried to read the riot act and they laughed in my face 😭😭 I CANNOT DO THIS!! I think I’m going to leave!! They clearly don’t give a shit!!

Same.
I really hope my eldest doesnt remember me as desperate and shouty.
I cant parent the younger kids the sane way i used to with the eldest because I'm tired and theyre wild. Which runs in an endless loop. Theyre wildness makes me tired, then I'm too tired to combat their wildness.
Then feel bad for wishing away these kiddy years.

O think the midway boredom is hitting. I e had this with dd5. This week has been horrific. Think it's the mix of heat/no school for weeks/change of routine.

I got my dh to take some annual leave to help me out and it's worked. For now. I don't want to use camps this year as she's still young but will consider it for next year definitely.

We've only 1 full month left. Think of it like that. One month down, one to go. But for you as I've been there this week and last. And then you get mad at yourself.

Also, this week I've found just filling a paddling pool with water and getting them the squirt things from sostrene Greene or tiger has help. Saucepans of water too. And just let them run wild. (Also has new carpet laid this week and I just make sure they stay in the kitchen!) 1 year old actually listens.

Good luck -I'm sure you'll be glad to get back into the classroom(they're literally all angels there😂)

OP- my boys are same age as yours and sound exactly the same. I have also thought about bolting it as all I seem to do is raise my voice 😔 It’s such a draining age. Sending you solidarity hugs 🤗

If it makes you feel any better, my two ds (ages 5 and 3.5) brought me to tears today, particularly the younger one. Gosh he was a terror-in public at a summer sports club I take them to (parents stay) and in the ruddy library of all places. I am also a teacher but still find I lose control over my own kids particularly in the heat, in the holidays and also after I have been unwell for the last two weeks!

The sugar consumption is a good point. Yesterday in the heat I found I let them have too many ice creams as we were all just finding it unbearably hot. However the only sugary thing they've had today were some of those fruit bear paw snacks.

Good luck

OP mine are 6 & 3 but I feel exactly the same. I'm in Ireland too.

We also get out a lot, they eat a good diet and they have consequences for their bad behaviour blah blah blah just like everyone's suggested. I think sometimes it's just the nature of kids. (obviously not all kids cos of course everyone else's appear to be angelic). It's totally exhausting and can be mind numbingly tedious, some days I want to scream.

Last week I rang some friends and offered to host some playdates in exchange for them taking my eldest for a couple hours here and there. I also rang my mum and asked if she could have them both for a day or two so I can get some space and asked my partner to book a couple of days off too. Basically I told everyone I was struggling and asked them to help cos if they don't I might strangle a child! I hope you have some support.

Just realised that sounds like I hate my kids - I don't. I usually love the summer hols with the nice weather and no school run but this year feels particularly challenging for some reason.

Pick your battles OP. Compost in a £3 bag of sand is not a hill I would die on personally.

Think "is this worth me getting upset about?", "Is this going to turn them into a horror of an adult" Or/and "is this going to kill them" the answer most of the time is no. So 🤷

"We were already out this morning, got some summer clothes and new shoes for them. Took them for a milkshake and lunch, went to the toy shop and picked out sand for the sand pit...came home washed out sand pit, cleaned it and they played them they just got stupid and starting wanting to mix my new compost, water and sand"

Op they are likely over stimulated, that is a busy morning for their ages, and they just wanted to experiment, and why not? Genuinely why not? Why was the compost such an issue? That isn't them being stupid, that is them being young kids and wanting to play.

Also carpet is there to be used and walked on. So again. Not really seeing the issue 🤷 sand can be hoovered out as long as its only a little bit.

I get your point, but the only way I've been able to avoid going completely mad is spending large periods of time outside the house. That and more cartoons than I'd usually approve of.

I think the problem is you are a teacher - so at school the kids do what you say. Children tend to obey other people much quicker than their own parents.
And nope not all children will obey after being told 3 or 4 times.
Actually if you have to keep saying then you are losing it.

If they are getting silly - maybe they are too hot/overstimulated. So yes going to their own rooms was a good response. Try getting them to have "down" activities - drawing, TV, reading - whatever works for each of them.
And a routine helps, so: out of the house for physical activity by 9 am. Back at 11 and a "quiet" activity. Lunch at 12/12:30. Help clear up and rest. Then afternoon activity. But do allow them time just to play, and opportunities to make a mess, maybe a messy bit of the Garden?

And with the LONG Irish holidays some clubs must be essential.

@Andysbestadventure because of several reasons

1. We are staying at my mums temporarily (whilst we Renovate) so it’s not my garden (otherwise I wouldn’t give a holy shite 😂)
2. I know my children...they literally would not know when to stop they would make a holy mess...again not my garden(which has just been landscaped) 😭🤣

So I realize that things are all over the place, I’m due my period too so I’m a mess!! Thanks for all of your kind words ladies. Dh is home and he is making dinner for us! Movie is on and all is calm!!...for now 🤣🤣

op your kids sound just like mine but mine are 7&8. They want to play together but almost constantly are in competition and bicker with each other. I feel like I can’t leave them unsupervised in a room otherwise it will lead to a disagreement and neither wants to compromise.

I also spent a lot of time outdoors with them but I fear that hasn’t given them the chance to just be at home and play and learn social skills to get along. Also, I think I have spoilt them by taking them out so frequently, they are so bratty. I know it’s my own fault but I don’t know how to correct it!