To want my colleague to mind her own business

[Sunnydays999]

Generally she is lovely . However She is a follower of a slimming club . She sits and watches what I eat . Questions the calories and quite honestly is driving me mad. If I eat she will question me and say “haven’t you just had lunch”
Why is she so interested in everyone else

She's projecting her feeling about her weight etc onto you.

Don't stress about it, but perhaps next time she does it, say that you really admire what she's doing but would rather she didn't point out anything about you eating.

I would nip this in the bud with a 'please don't comment on what I eat.'

Oh God there is nothing more boring than someone banging on and on about their diet. If she makes a comment such as, haven't you just had lunch, reply with, "Why are you asking me that?" If she makes other comments about calories, ask the same. "Why are you asking? Why are you so interested in what I eat?" It might shame her into keeping quiet. Otherwise you might have to just be rude to her. A swift, "Bore off and eat an eclair Janine", might do it.

“Sorry but I’d rather you change the subject, if I was wanting to diet then I might be interested but I guess you haven’t realised but your conversation is coming across as judgemental “

'It's your food you are supposed to be monitoring, not mine.'

There are SO MANY threads like this at least one a week, why such people cannot keep their thoughts to themselves I do not know!

And I speak as someone who is overweight myself, i lost 2 stone with support from WW and then could no longer attend but used what I learned to continue losing albeit slowly and others things happening have made it a bit harder.

It's absolutely none of her business and it IS rude for her to comment and give an unasked for opinion.

But equally I don't see the point in being antagonistic back especially if you otherwise get on with her.

Next time she says something I would say something like

"I really admire and respect that you're taking part in sw/ww whatever, and I wish you success with it, but please do not comment on my diet or weight. It's personal and how, what when I choose to eat is my concern and nobody else's"

If she STILL does it even after you've said something like that "butt out Sharon I don't tell you what to eat!"

I would not use the word "sorry". I would say something like "you're projecting your weight loss issues again".

I’m going to have to calmly say something or im going to snap

What is she following? Slimming world?

Google the truth about slimming world and you will be able to arm yourself with some cracking comebacks to her future comments!

"haven't you just had lunch?" would be met with "so?!"

Calories and food topics do come up in my work but I shrug and say I genuinely have no idea nor interest in calorie content.

If she comments again just firmly tell her to stop, you are an adult and have no need for her to comment on your food. She is being rude.

She sounds like an ex-smoker; she thinks she’s ‘seen the light’ and now has to evangelise to everyone else.

Just tell her ‘You’re the one on a diet, not me’ and get on with eating.

"It's fine, I can just eat what I want and not worry about it."

"Yes I have Maureen. I see your training in the food police squad is going well"

Instead of waiting for the "next time and the , wait for shocked reaction and maybe some tears - could you try suggesting a coffee and give her the feedback that how her constant comments on your food and intake are pissing you off? By instigating the conversation you can do it at a time you're not already wound up. Assume you like this person and want there to be a pleasant work environment??