To think he doesn’t like me?

[DustyTurtle]

I bumped into my ex for the first time since we split up today. We split up about a month ago. I was talking to my friend about it and she said it sounded like he still had feelings for me.

He didn’t really talk to me, I asked if he was ok and he just said yeah, didn’t ask me how I was. He wouldn’t really look at me either. To me this felt like he hated seeing me and just wanted to get away.

I just left it saying have a good night, all he said to that was thanks. Nothing about me or wasn’t interested in talking to me. None of that would suggest he still had feelings for me, would it? I really can’t see why my friend would think he did.

Does it matter? Presumably you split up for a reason.

It sounds like you’re friend is talking out of her bum, I wish people wouldn’t say things like that as it can create false hope/confusion if someone is still interested.

Unless he says it with his own mouth then take everything else with a pinch of salt.

I think your friend is trying to put a positive spin on it. Forget him..plenty more fish in the sea!

Why do you care? He's your ex and what he feels is irrelevant. Time to move on.

On the flip side, he may still have feelings for you but was purposely hiding them by keeping conversation brief. Or he may still fancy/like you but not want to date you because he doesn’t think it would work. There’s a multitude of reasons why he acted that way, including him not liking you.

Humans can lie and mask their feelings so you’ll never know for sure, so there’s really no point in dwelling on it. As a previous poster said, presumably you split up for a reason so his lack of conversation should be a non issue

Have you seen the film He's just not that in to you? That

Doubt he hates you . Prob just trying to move on, don't worry about it.

Who ended it and do you want him to have feelings for you?

OP I’m sorry but from a total outsider who doesn’t know you, him, or your situation, it just sounds awkward and like he doesn’t care.

Sounds just super awkward, you're trying to make polite small talk, he wants to just go.
Are you hoping he still has feelings for you op?

Maybe he does still have feelings for you. Doesn’t mean he wants to get back with you

It was a bit awkward. I wasn’t keeping him talking with small talk, walking past each other couldn’t have been avoided and I didn’t want to just ignore him.

I don’t want him to still have feelings for me, I asked him if we could work things out when we first split up and he said no so I accepted that and have been moving on. My friend was saying that he’d have found it difficult to talk to me because he still had feelings for me but I didn’t think that myself because if he did he would have wanted to work things out before. I just wondered if I’d read the situation right, I don’t always pick up on social cues that well. Sounds like I have done so I can just carry on moving on myself.

Thanks everyone for your input.

Well if he didn't want to work things out when you asked, I imagine he didn't really want to see or speak to you so was being abrupt to end the conversation and get on with his day.

Your friend appears to either trying to make you feel better by convincing you he still cares, or has simply read the situation wrong.

No need to give this more head space, he's an ex and truth be told none of us can really tell you what he's feeling or thinking.