Household chores. Family of three Aibu re split

[Almost40andweeping]

Family of three. Both me and DH work FT although I have historically been flexible as I work for myself and do work from home a lot .

Times I work from home I have no issue with doing housework etc as I’ve got up early/worked late However I’m now on a big project 8/5pm and it’s massively tiring. I think it now should be split however this is proving to be a massive bone of contention.

Historically I’ve been a martyr and done it all so now I’m struggling to allocate jobs.

Anyone have a Rota for jobs which works for a family of 3. Two adults and a 12 year old? And would share?

What works for us is doing a room per day. Everyone gets assigned a task in said room.

So Monday would be living room, DH will hoover, DD will wipe all the surfaces and I’ll wipe the skirting and wash throws.

That kind of thing. It takes very little time out of everyone’s day.

Hmmm. I have zero experience of this because my son is very small and we have a pretty even split of work between me and my partner (it varies depending on who’s got more on etc but generally we’re both aware of what feels fair rather than one person taking on the lion’s share) BUT for what it’s worth my advice would be:
1- start with a sit down conversation about what there is to do and how it should be split. Family meeting. Go into it with the attitude of ‘we’re going to figure this out together’ and let DH and DS come up with ideas. The point is that it’s not all on you - 3 people live there, so if you come up with the best rota in the world, if their current attitude is that it’s all your responsibility because you’ve always done it, you taking charge of a rota will enforce that view.
2- try a ‘power hour’. A time when everyone’s home, the timer goes on and everyone mucks in and gets as much done as possible in the hour. Before we had a baby and all the mess that entails, a weekly power hour with 2 of us cleaning was enough to give a 2 bedroom house a pretty good clean! The good thing about this plan is that everyone’s working at the same time so there’s no ‘hidden’ work that others don’t see/appreciate. We used to reward ourselves with a chip shop dinner that evening!

What do you expect the 112 year old to do above clearing up after himself? And how much homework does he have?

@NannyOgg what an odd question.

Kids much younger than 12 can wipe tables and sweep floors.

I know they can. I was merely asking the expectations.

(Slight typo in the age there too - oops!)

Have a look at the organised mum method, followed properly its 30 mins a day per room(so 10 mins each), takes a few weeks to get to grips with it but does work .