So I'm stuck at home all day everyday with the kids. I'm doing all the housework and we have a 5 week old newborn too. I'm breastfeeding and do all the night feeds and often bring baby downstairs anytime from 5am onwards to ensure DP gets enough sleep for work.
I feel like nothing has changed for DP. He's still going out with friends, playing sports etc. So far in the last 6 days we have been out for lunch and his dad came, next day he went cycling with a friend said he'd be back approx 7:30-8 and we would go for a walk, came home at 10pm, no walk. Monday and Tuesday had a friend round had a beer in the pool in the garden, Wednesday FIL cane round and had a beer in the garden and today played tennis. Most weeks happen like this.
So far I've been to a play at school and the supermarket twice on my own. Baby does take a bottle. He keeps saying he's happy for me to meet friends or go swimming but when can I do that if he makes plans everyday?
We've had several arguments over him wanting to go out and wet the babies head with his workmates and them putting pressure on him to do it. It will turn into a binge with him late home and no respite that day and probably write off the next day too. Now his worknates are saying I am controlling and taking the piss out of DP.
I've had to ask for time together, and when I don't want visitors I'm being Selfish. It's all getting too much. AIBU and controlling?