to think this isn't right? (ear piercing)

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DD got her ears pierced yesterday after years of asking, as a reward for school related stuff.
Went to a tattoo / piercer who had pierced a friend's child, who then recommended them.
Both looked fine from the front, which is what you look at when you're checking them straight after, isn't it? But this morning while cleaning them I realised one has gone through quite crooked (see photo). Or AIBU?
She was so scared and therefore so brave to get it done. But I'm worried it's so low at the back it could cause issues. Butterfly backs could be seen on regular studs hanging below the lobe, it'd be easier to get caught / rip / stretch with so little flesh below. Also earrings like hoops might lie at noticeably different angles.
WWYD?

That doesn’t look right at all.

Unfortunately they've pierces it on angle. One option would be to take it out and allow it to grow over then go again? They should refund the cost but I'm not sure if be going back to the same place to get it redone.

*pierced

It does look like it's on an angle. I don't know what I'd do though.

That happened to me many years ago. It was a second piercing in one ear. I took it out and didn't bother again. Hoop earrings will not hang straight.

I think you need to get it out so it can heal then get it done again. The sooner the better. It's up to you about the other side, best to leave it of that one is ok, but she might not like just having one side done for a while.

Straight out and let it heal. Go to the piercers first though. Show them. Get a refund. Go to a different piercers when it's healed and start again.

Other ear looks straight

Straight out and let it heal. Go to the piercers first though. Show them. Get a refund.

They will probably wait until it heals and do it again. Make sure she sits still next time.

Sorry that doesn’t look right. I’d go back and see what she suggests. What a shame for your dd though.

Coconut she was very still!

Queenio thanks, it really is, DD is so upset.

Thanks to all for opinions so far. Going to visit another piercer for an independent opinion I think before going back to the original one. I think it has to come out but it's whether just 1 or both come out & how long to heal etc. I don't think I'd want to go back to the original place for DD to be redone but I will listen to her feelings too when we reach that point.

I can’t quite tell if it’s just the angle of the pic, but is the one with the “wonky” piercing more swollen?

She was so scared and therefore so brave to get it done.

Nothing brave about having her own way.

But yes, get refund, go to another one who will wait until it's healed.

Take it out, let it heal and start again. If not she’s going to have two holes there that will eventually ‘possibly’ merge into one. Out and heal asap. Poor kid 😔 I can imagine her disappointment.

When I was your DDs age, I would probably have wanted it rectified so if that's what she wants I'd suggest removing it, waiting for it to heal and then getting it done again.

However, I think if it had happened to me now I wouldn't bother. I'm sure mine sit differently now after years of having them done due to various different things, the odd tug with a hair brush, too heavy earrings etc ...

I remember doing our own in secondary school with a needle and some ice!?

I feel for your DD though, it must be disappointing if she's been looking forward to it.

It's just you said she was scared so I figured she might have flinched.
I have 20+ piercings and never had a wonky one. I don't know any professional piercers that would put a wonky hole in someone, that's why I thought about flinching.

Go back though. I can't imagine a professional being happy with that.

Is it because the bar is too long (to allow for swelling)? if you push it from the back you might find the same happens and the front looks lower, but is it only dropping?

On the wonk for sure.

As a pp said, I would let it heal and then get it redone!

Visited a different piercer first, he agreed it was crooked & not ideal. His face was interesting when he assumed it was done by a gun, and I said no a needle. Raised eyebrows etc.

Went back to original piercer. She immediately started with 'I'm human, these things sometimes happen'. So different to the previous day, when she talked about how needle piercing was the most precise method! Lots of talk about how if wasn't so bad, wouldn't cause issues, mostly directed at my DD rather than me along with direct Q's to her 'do you want me to take them out & redo them, it'll hurt taking them out & you know it'll hurt redoing them plus you'll have to wait at least 6 weeks'. Plus she kept touching my daughter's ears with bare unwashed hands to look, going against the care sheet they give out for post-piercing. Unbelievable.

Anyway the gist of it was they said leave it for a week to see if it's swelling. If still unhappy take it out & leave for 6 wks to heal then return for a free repierce or money back on the crooked ear, essentially in 7 weeks. Going to enquire with trading standards about it as I've nothing in writing to say that's what was agreed & it could fall outside of refund periods if the refuse when it comes to it. Plus if I'm honest I wanted my money back for both ears not just 1. DD went in to get both done & hadn't got that, she has another 6-8 weeks on top of the original 6 weeks when she can't do certain things while they heal, so didn't get what we paid for. But not sure how the law stands with these things. I know we are entitled to it back for the 1 ear though.

Either bad piercer
Of scared dd that flinched
Let it heal and then go elsewhere to have it done again
Cutyour losses in regards to money back.

Also: why pierce her ears if she was "so scared "? Should have waiter a few months/years until she was ready

I'm a trained ear piercer and that is not right at all. Unfortunately the only thing you can do it take it out now and let it heal over and get it re-done once its completely healed. Absolutely ridiculous that it's been pierced at an angle. And if at all possible I'd go back to them before you take the earring out, show them and they really should refund you

Have said it before, but DD definitely didn't flinch or move. I was sat next to her, not a peep of movement. So much so the piercer commented to her 'you were like a rock'. No movement.

As for her not being brave as it's something she wanted... reallyThreemagnums? There's lots of things I've had to be brave to do when nervous, on a journey to achieve the final result of something I wanted.

And it is possible to be scared of doing something yet still be ready to do it yeahnah. My driving test for example! My DD has wanted this for years but I said I wouldn't consider it until she passed various things in my mind (understanding what was involved, being responsible about aftercare, making sensible choices while they healed for example). She is mature enough to have made this decision herself or I wouldn't have consented, that said she is still a child who needs guidance & support in something new.

After your updates it sounds like a bad piercer. Possibly a trainee, because I know a lot of professionals and none of them would do that or make excuses for that!

Take it out asap. Don't wait a week.

Bad piercer then op
Which is shit for your dd
Because now she has to do it again :(

You right re being scared for something but still being ready to do it. Sorry

Took the crooked one out tonight (3 days after piercing, lots of photos first). Came out nicely, no sticking of the bar in the ear, no bleeding, so fingers crossed it'll heal well.

Thanks for the helpful opinions.

JuicyPop ha yes I did 14 of my own piercings too! Not even with ice, just pushed an earring through my ear lobe, ear cartilage & eyebrow. Mental & not an option for DD!