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AIBU to have my wedding at Halloween?

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Nomintrude · 24/07/2019 22:21

I'm planning my wedding for next year and due to a variety of factors it would work really well to have it the weekend of 31st October-1st November. I'm not big on Halloween really so I don't fancy a themed wedding but I thought it could be fun to have a bonfire-night, relaxed vibe to the reception. My question is would it seem odd to choose October 31st as a wedding day? Alternatively we could have the wedding on the Friday, or maybe have a party on the Saturday night followed by the actual wedding on the Sunday and maybe an afternoon tea afterwards. What do you think? We could choose a different date but this one works really well as I work in education and it's in the middle of a two week break for us.

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Kittykatmacbill · 24/07/2019 23:26

If it’s this year I’d be more concerned about Brexit!

Normandy144 · 24/07/2019 23:30

Go for a Halloween wedding. Nothing odd about it at all. I know a few couples who got married that day. You don't have to go all out at all. Maybe some spooky props/masks etc for the dance floor would be fun, with a few spooky tunes. If there are kids you could make sure they get some Halloween sweeties etc.

I would just stick to getting married and having the party all on the same day. It will be inconvenient for your guests to stretch it out over several days, and I'm not sure what the reason for doing that would be - is it just because you're worried about what people will think if you get married on Halloween? If that's the reason, it's a bit silly.

Grumpyunleashed · 25/07/2019 00:37

I despise tick or treat as a disgusting habit that can cause distress to elderly vulnerable people who do not understand why people are banging on their doors after dark asking for stuff.

Do not give me the usual fucking lying shit about this not happening as I have had both distressed neighbours calling me at the time for help and have had to pick up the pieces following the event through work.
Rant and hopefully treat or treat over.

In terms of the wedding, it’s your day, do as you wish, it seems clear here that people who you live and love you will be there to enjoy your special day.

AlmostAJillSandwich · 25/07/2019 02:16

would be my ideal date its my fave holiday!

LellyMcKelly · 25/07/2019 03:05

It’s also the date Brexit is supposed to be happening this year. So depending on your point of view you could end up with a lot of very happy and/or sad people.

Yabadee · 25/07/2019 06:59

The date wouldn’t bother me!

What would is doing it over 2 days like suggested in OP. My cousin did that - he’s catholic and his bride was becoming catholic before they got married.

The Saturday night we went to chapel where she was baptised in her wedding dress. Then they had the wedding ceremony and actually got married. The Sunday night was the reception.

Having to get dressed up twice, pay for hair and makeup twice etc - absolute pain in the ass.

BeanBag7 · 25/07/2019 07:03

I think it's fine. People don't "celebrate" Halloween like Christmas or New Year and wont be bothered about missing it.

Doing it over 2 days seems unnecessary and people are more likely to decline one part or another as it's a pain to get 2 outfits, 2 lots of babysitters, 2 days off work etc.

jaseyraex · 25/07/2019 07:08

I got married on Halloween. We love Halloween though, as do most of our friends, so it was "themed". Black and orange colour scheme, decorated pumpkins as centerpieces, Halloween props for photos. It was fab

I think the bonfire night vibe could be really nice. You must have toasted marshmallows! I wouldn't do the party then the wedding though. You'll have a lot of hungover guests who cba getting dressed up for a second time.

stucknoue · 25/07/2019 07:23

I think it's fine, but I wouldn't bother with a bonfire because smoke and dry clean only clothes don't mix. Do the candy cart thing and maybe incorporate some miniature gourds into your table decorations, perhaps platted wheat etc, old fashioned harvest type stuff - see American websites for inspiration, they have amazing autumn decorations that aren't Halloween goulish type stuff.

If you are having loads of kids under 10 you could do fancy dress for them in the evening but I honestly think most your guests with kids will be relieved they have an excuse not to trick or treat that year!

mintich · 25/07/2019 08:03

Not odd! But I wouldn't do any theme

FenellaVelour · 25/07/2019 08:09

I got married on Halloween. Only a small wedding, 35 people.

I carved pumpkins - some with our initials (cheesy but still!) - and instead of favours we had a silly “lucky dip” on the way in where people got ridiculous Halloween themed toys (think fake witches noses or vampire teeth) which made for interesting photos. No other themed stuff, though my bridesmaid did wear black and I had black ostrich feathers in my bouquet.

Suited us and our friendship group.

thisisalliwant · 25/07/2019 08:10

We got married then. It was the second weekend of half term, which suited immediate family full of teachers :) and those with children. Didn’t even cross our minds it was Halloween weekend as it doesn’t figure in our lives greatly, even now with DC.

Awrite · 25/07/2019 08:12

Great date for a wedding. No reason not to. Go for it. Have as much fun with it as suits you.

newmomof1 · 25/07/2019 08:34

I wouldn't even consider the fact that it's Halloween.
I wouldn't do a nod to the date and would personally find it really irritating if kids came over to my table begging trick or treating.

I definitely wouldn't do it over 2 days a

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