Would it be cheeky to ask when child’s party is

[ScoutFinchMockingbird]

DS (8) has a friend. Been friends since reception. Always got on well until a slight frostiness by the other boy towards DS as we approached term end.

Friend has a birthday in August and we were invited last year. It was on a day I work, so I took it off to ensure DS could attend.

Ran into friend and his mum in a shop today. Spoke of organising a play date- no mentions of a party. Not sure if she forgot and seemed very happy to see my DS.

WIBU to text the boy’s mum asking for party date to ensure DS can attend? Or should I just wait, as my DS may not be on the invite list this time.

Wait. This is the age where big parties start ending. He may well not be invited.

I certainly wouldn't ask about the party date if you haven't even been invited!

I wouldn't ask. They might not be having one or he might not be invited!

Perhaps there is no party this year?

Don't ask. I had a massive party for my child last year. September born, class list change. I haven't got it in me to do the same again this year when I know hardly any parents. I will be having a family party. Also he may not be invited

You can gauge whether your ds can attend when you get the invite!

You could message to ask about a play date then see if anything materialises from that?

I wouldn't ask. There may not be a party or, if there is, DS might not be invited.

Thanks all. I’ll wait and see then.

Don’t ask, there may or may not be a party and if there is, your dc may or may not have been invited. If you haven’t received an invite and you should have done, presumably the mum would text you to ask if ds is attending (I have done this if I know the other parents numbers). But if you ask and your dc isn’t invited, it’s going to be awkward.

Nope, you are assuming there is a party and assuming an invite as well. So no, don't do that.

Why not message and say it was lovely to see you today. Would X like to come over for a playdate on Saturday. And then take it from there.