To ask for recommendations for 1st solo hol at 40?

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STBExH and I are separating, my decision, so quite happy with it. We agreed this over a year ago and he is basically refusing to move out (I'll buy him out). Basically unless there's violence theres nothing I can do to force him out. The last year and a bit has been awful, so much hostility and resentment on my part at home, and its causing stress for us all (by which I mean me, him, and our children).
Anyway... I've taken the kids away for a week, he is doing 5 days with them at the end of August. Aibu to think of flying somewhere not too far away for just 3 or 4 nights, and having some time on my own? Or is that idea horrendous? Not sure if seeing either families, or couples everywhere will just not be much fun. If I go for it... where? Would like somewhere warm, naice, and ideally no more than say a 2.5hr flight. Have looked at "singles" hols and no luck with dates, or they're amazing things like seeing the sights of Tanzania or walking the Amalfi coast. I'd just want a nice hotel where I could relax but that isn't in the middle of nowhere... thoughts good mumsnetters?

I did Rome alone 2 years ago in my mid-late twenties. Plenty to do to keep me busy and was probably the best holiday I’ve had!

Glad I went alone as I could do things at my own pace and spend as much time in places I wanted to (Vatican).

What about Barcelona? A city break would suit your timings (it's a relatively short break you're having), but there's also a beach there.
A beachy holiday is going to be full of families, and things are maybe a bit too raw for that right now.

I went to Toulouse for the weekend on my own last year as I can speak a bit of French & it was a city I’d never been to before - I had an amazing time!

Am looking into singles holidays for next year when I have a bit more cash / time.

I'd suggest Merano in the South Tyrol (technically in Italy) - a lovely relaxing place, warm, feels very safe. Loads to do if you feel like it, or just wander around the attractive riverside town.

The Lefay Resort, Lake Garda. Perfect! Absolutely beautiful - its a spa too so you can have some treatments. There were a few single women there recently.

Thanks everyone, really appreciate it.
Dame- hadn't though of a spa type place and the one you recommended looks lovely!

Don't know if you've made a decision but, if not, Bruges is lovely. Beautiful architecture, lots of daft little museums (I give you, The Chip Museum) as well as grander attractions. And, most importantly, you can't move for chocolate and beer.

If you do go, make sure you bring back as much of the Save The Queen honey gin from The Bottle Shop as you can because it is a: delicious and b: impossible to get hold of over here.

Canary Islands, felt ultra safe and there are unexplored parts of Lanzarote that are utterly beautiful, tonnes to do if you look, stay away from the big resorts if that's not your thing. But it's a 4 hour flight.

Any of the cities in Europe. I'd book a reasonably central hotel and just go for it. If you pick a city that has a hop-on hop-off city sightseeing bus then you can get out and about without any hassle whatsoever.

I really loved Berlin solo.

Malaga is a fabulous city too; again with a beach, and the shopping is amazing!
I was underwhelmed by Toulouse, I must admit. Not memorable enough for me to revisit. Paris, on the other hand ...

I have always wanted to go to Croatia. Dubrovnik or Split. Also the Movempick Spa in Jordan looks amazing. I think a spa is a good option as it is completely usual to go alone and is v relaxing. I have been to Champneys on my own and loved it.

Ooh, a lovely city break - I loved Malaga and Budapest. I'd book myself a spa day and one of those food & wine tours you can do.

Vegas #yolo

Malaga is lovely for shopping and food (and the beach!). Vienna has beautiful architechture and history; I was quite stunned by the palaces. Both cities are very safe and the people are welcoming.

Thanks again all.
Still undecided but now thinking I may prefer to be closer to home than away from the kids for the first time and my own surroundings.... I'm in the Midlands so I may just book a day at Ragdale Hall one day and take a book and relax for the day, and arrange stuff with friends for a couple of others. There are some great suggestions here though for hopefully the next time I find myself in this position, thank you x

Try the Swan Hotel in Grasmere - a small, v female friendly hotel. It has a lovely walkers bar that you can take a book and eat in, lots of nooks and crannies to sit in so that you don't feel intimidated. The staff are so friendly too. Grasmere is central Lakes so ideally placed for exploring - go for a drive or try a walk. The Grasmere and Rydal Water one is easy and flat, or for something a bit more challenging see what these guys are doing - thelakedistrictwalker.co.uk/ - they are brilliant.

The Swan was my first solo hol - I was 42 - and have now progressed to longer walks, solo and wild camping, and love it. Still head back to the Swan for the winter though - too cold for a tent!

@chockaholic72 thank you v much... I love walking. That site looks fab for future reference. I have plantar fasciitis in my right foot at the moment so walking is not very easy at the moment, but when its sorted that looks right up my street 😀