To give up on a 20 year friendship

[Wonderland18]

My friends been in my life forever but since the start of my pregnancy I’ve had nothing but issues with her. (She’s had a previous miscarriage and a termination)

I was told I couldn’t have kids so my LO was a hell of a surprise, my friend didn’t take to it too well. Spent the first 4 months going on about her miscarriage 8 years ago giving me unbelievable anxiety. Then when I was around 7 months she told me her parents weren’t happy she bought my LO outfits as they don’t think I’ll make it full term. I had to usher her out the house after that one (never one apology)

Now we always spoke every day and seen each other weekly and once the LO was born she was around constantly. I’ve now not seen her in 4 months and hear from her once a fortnight. I messaged about PND and how I was struggling and got. I response for a week and then it was just a yeah we all struggle message but hope your feeling better.

I’ve supported her through everything and just feel done now, Am I being unreasonable to want to call it quits?

@Frazzlerock she fell pregnant off a one night stand and miscarried 8 years ago at 7 weeks and it was understandably awful, I spent many years helping her through it and she fell pregnant again 3 years ago but terminated at 16 weeks as her and her partner decided it was best.

I knew my little one would be hard to swallow but I’d been through 5 years worth of checks telling me I couldn’t conceive so although she was a surprise she was something I never thought I’d have and as soon as I knew she was there she was fiercely wanted. I guess it could be too hard to be in my life for her and if that’s how she feels I’ll allow her the space she needs.

@mussolini9 your right I really should let it lie. My LO comes first and I don’t want the negativity around her, I do hope in the future she comes around and sees she’s been unfair but if not I’ll just have to mourn that loss and move on.. thanks guys