To be annoyed?

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We have a family member who helps us out with childcare one afternoon every 2 weeks while I work, of course I’m grateful and the less money spent on childcare the better

However... we had noticed in the afternoon she was here that the kids were eating so much bad food (found wrappers in the bin). I give them lunch before work and feed them tea after my work so it’s not as if they are hungry. We decided to only buy a couple of unhealthy snacks for the odd treat but the healthy snacks were still in the house and we explained that we are trying to cut back on the rubbish they are eating and she agreed.

Now when I’m at work she is bringing round her own snacks for the kids, chocolates, crisps etc!!!

Aibu to be annoyed she’s taking round unhealthy snacks after I’ve told her we are trying to cut back and that there are loads of healthy snacks in the house??

Are you sure it's not just her eating them rather than giving them to your kids?

It sounds like you need to start paying for all your childcare.

Once a fortnight, is it that big a deal really, in exchange for childcare?

I wouldn’t be concerned if it’s once every 2 weeks tbh.

So a few hours a fortnight? It would fall into the pick your battles to me.

Must be Grandma. This is a classic for some grandparents. She probably thinks you're too strict with food and wants to "treat" them. It's annoying if you've decided how you want to structure their diet but it's one afternoon a fortnight. I say let it go.

Let them have a few extra snacks once a fortnight.
Unless it’s effecting their behaviour there’s zero harm

Once a fortnight, I would say it's annoying but it's an exchange for free childcare.

My MIL does the same she will take DS for McDonalds and feed him chocolate. But without her we wouldn't even get a date night or anything so I suck it up and bite my lip, bloody annoying though.

Either pay for the childcare for those hours or suck it up. The kids eating treats once a fortnight is not a hill I would choose to die on!

You don't mention that the kids aren't eating their tea after being looked after by this family member (I'm guessing mil,am I right?) so s/he can't be feeding them that much junk. Unless your kids are overweight I'd let it go, especially considering it's only once a fortnight, and just be grateful for the free childcare done by somebody who loves my kids.

Ok looks like IBU

It’s not MIL but another female relative.

Yes they never want to eat their tea either, which means bedtime is abit of a nightmare as that’s when they get hungry.

I just don’t understand if you ask someone politely to just give your children healthy snacks if they ask for one.. and then they take round their own unhealthy snacks for them

it's annoying but it's not out of control snacking, is it?
Can you give them their tea a bit later to mitigate the bedtime problems?