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To be happy more than I'm sad

43 replies

Happyaslarry37 · 24/07/2019 07:31

So we've finally sold our house after 3 years of absolute hell. We've had the worst neighbours you can imagine. They don't work they smoke weed everyday, pissed up most nights. I used to dread hot days as I knew what it'd mean come night. Without fail there would be a BBQ party going on until god knows what time. Idgaf if I sound judgey as I've lost over a stone in weight as I've had so much stress. My aibu is that I feel so happy that this night mare is coming to an end but I really feel for the young family who have bought it. She seems so nice and with 2 young kids I know what she is facing! I obviously haven't said anything as I didn't want the sale to fall through. Contracts have now been exchanged so there is no going back now. Part of me thinks sod it though, I deserve it after what we've been through!

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Geschwister4 · 24/07/2019 07:39

I feel sorry for the new owners too! Did they ask about the neighbours at all during the sale process? I think you are supposed to tell them about any disputes but if you have just suffered in silence then I guess there have not been any disputes. Enjoy your new home, hopefully the place you are going to has nice neighbours? or maybe the sellers have not told you either.

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Happyaslarry37 · 24/07/2019 07:45

They did ask about the neighbours and we said they were fine 🤥😳

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user87382294757 · 24/07/2019 07:47

I think it was a bit much to lie about them to be honest. I guess you wanted to sell though and that came first.

Letthemysterybe · 24/07/2019 07:47

They did ask about the neighbours and we said they were fine 🤥😳 Well that’s not nice

BeanBag7 · 24/07/2019 07:47

I feel bad for the young family (first time buyers?) Who will move into your place. I hope they are able to deal with it. Do the neighbours own their house?

There isn't much you could do though as obviously you don't want to live there yourself.

BeanBag7 · 24/07/2019 07:48

They did ask about the neighbours and we said they were fine 🤥

Well I've lost a bit of sympathy for you there. That's not fair.

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Happyaslarry37 · 24/07/2019 07:57

Yes the neighbours own the house. The new couple moving in are a lot younger so I reckon they'll be fine. Its a bitter sweet feeling though.

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Geschwister4 · 24/07/2019 08:00

Why will they be fine because they are younger? Pissed up, weed smoking neighbours are a nightmare for any age.

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Happyaslarry37 · 24/07/2019 08:03

Maybe they smoke weed too 🤷‍♂️

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ambereeree · 24/07/2019 08:05

You only have to declare issues if council or police were involved ie. on record. Don't worry OP it's the way of the world. She may have a few friends to sort out the neighbours.

LoopyLou1981 · 24/07/2019 08:12

That’s not strictly true. If the new owners can prove that there has been an ongoing issue that wasn’t disclosed during the sale process and that the issue could affect their house price when they try to sell it then they are within their right to pursue you for the loss.
I also think, morally, it’s a pretty nasty thing to do.

niceupthedanceagain · 24/07/2019 08:23

Good luck with your new neighbours

MarriageOfPigaro · 24/07/2019 08:25

God you sound like such an asshole not disclosing that to them.
You know you're legally obliged to inform them right?

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Happyaslarry37 · 24/07/2019 08:30

It was a real catch 22 situation. If we fessed up they'd never have bought from us. We tried being honest in the past and it got us nowhere! Had 3 previous sales fall through because of it!

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BettyIsABoy · 24/07/2019 08:32

So what was OP meant to do?

Disclose, lose the sale and continue living there?

There's threads on here where people have nightmare neighbours. They get advice to move..... So there'll always have to be new people moving in.

I feel for the new family too. But not sure what the OP's solution is.

sheshootssheimplores · 24/07/2019 08:34

Op I’d have done the same. The new owners might do a fantastic job of shutting idiot neighbours down. She might have a bloke who will just sort it out in one ( probably threatening) conversation. Don’t worry about it. You’re free now.

BelulahBlanca · 24/07/2019 08:36

They might be weed smokers because they are younger?

I do agree you had to say they were fine if not you’d have been stuck forever.

RosaWaiting · 24/07/2019 08:38

I know someone who got compensated after a vendor failed to disclose an issue. It was documented by the management company though.

Kerberos · 24/07/2019 08:38

Well done OP. Your arsehole neighbours aren't your responsibility. Perhaps they started smoking weed after you moved out? Or perhaps you genuinely didn't mind the weed? You've done your time and you're moving on.

Moominfan · 24/07/2019 08:39

It's a no win situation, I feel sorry for the new guys. Lying is awful but I understand people do shitty things when they're desperate

wildcherries · 24/07/2019 08:39

They have young children, and you didn't tell them about the unsociable noise and stench of weed they'll be dealing with. That's unkind.

GruciusMalfoy · 24/07/2019 08:41

It's an awkward one. Of course you don't want the same to fall through, but anyone would feel sorry for the new family moving in with no idea what they face. I guess it's a risk of moving, you never really know what the neighbours are like til you're in.

Apolloanddaphne · 24/07/2019 08:42

Talk about mixed messages on here. People who are having trouble with their neighbours are advised to move. OP is doing just that but is being told she is wrong to have not disclosed how awful her neighbours are. No-one would ever be able to move away from horrible neighbours if they were completely truthful about them. Hand on heart if it was you selling a house in this situation would you all be truthful? Didn't think so.

RosaWaiting · 24/07/2019 08:48

Apollo, MN isn’t one person! Or a large group sharing one brain....

Somuchcheating · 24/07/2019 08:51

Yeah you suck. Pretty sure it’s illegal too, as other sales have Fallen through because of it. Those poor kids!! They’ll be so happy and excited right now and have no idea what’s coming! Shame on you.