What would you do?

[popsadaisy]

Wasn't sure which topic to write in for this one, it's not necessarily a 'AIBU' so sorry about that...

I'm intrigued to know what you would do in this particular situation. Will try my best to explain as best I can and not drip feed!!!

If you had a very close friend who was upset by another friend (who you aren't mega close to but have known for many years) and you agreed that said friend has been very unreasonable to your close friend and are pretty pissed off on their behalf would you pull them up on it? Not necessarily in a 'you've been a dick' kind of way but a 'you've really upset .... the way you have acted' just so that she at least knows how her actions have caused a lot of upset (I've a feeling she is some what oblivious to how her actions or lack of have upset this friend).

Butt out or stick up for good friend?

Personally, I ALWAYS stay out of these things and leave them to sort it out themselves.

Nothing stay out unless you're specifically asked for your opinion

I can see how if she's oblivious it might be very tempting to tell her that she's upset your friend. But I think it's best to stay out of it yourself. Depending on the details it might help to encourage your upset friend to approach her with it instead, or just let it play out between them and support where needed.

Think I'd keep well out of that one, it wouldn't end well for you!

Depends on what age did.

Shagged her boyfriend? Yes, I’d say something. Didn’t invite her on a night out? I’d leave it.

I butt out, I try not to insert myself into other people’s issues - no good can come of it and you’ll most likely be accused of defending one over the other

Stay out of it. No good ever came from shit stirring. I assume close friend is an adult and can tell other friend that she is pissed off ?

I would not bother, leave them to it, they will reform their friendship and if anyone needs an out, they will blame the middleman, i.e. you

They’re adults. Let them slug it out between themselves.

Definitely stay out of it, unless she asks.

I think I'd encourage the upset friend to talk to the mutual friend herself.