To say that...

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If you only see your partner of a weekend and are always doing fun things (Concerts/expensive mini breaks and parties) then of course you will be blissfully happy?

I wouldn’t only want to see my husband on weekends. I like doing normal life with him.

Of course that’s not true!

I only see my Husband at weekends and we rarely do fun stuff. All the household chores still need to be done along with his weeks washing, ironing etc. We're happy but life is certainly not all parties and concerts

Maybe not just blissfully happy but also that it is a lot easier to get along in those circumstances

I'm guessing there are no children involved?

How do you ever get to properly know them if you’re just out doing fun stuff?

This sounds like a relationship between teenagers rather than adults.

There are two involved.

I only ask as it was a secret thought I had when a friend said this is the most blissful she has ever been with someone. I know for a fact they only see each other at weekend's and are doing all the things I mentioned. They both have kids and are recently separated. They say they were meant to be together all along and have an amazing connection. Not criticizing but just think its easy to be happy when its all scenic views, parties and fun. I just wonder how they would be if all that was taken away and they lived a 'normal' existence as a couple.

Well my DH lives in a different city 4/5 days a week so we only see him at weekends.

I don’t think it’s easy. I think it makes a relationship much harder not actually being together.

And being blissfully happy is a problem because...?

Isn’t that the case for all new relationships though? You’re swept up in the excitement

Ah, bless her, still in the early days then.
And when she needs someone there for her midweek and he can’t come over.
Or when she realises that she misses him more than she really and thinks ‘if he doesn’t miss me for the rest of the week is it one sided.,,,,?’

You sound sour, why would this be your first thought when one of your friends told you how happy they were?

Nothing wrong with being blissfully happy of course, I just thought 'Would she still be as happy if they were stuck at home with squabbling children, both of them tired after a day at work and nothing much going on of a weekend.'

Sounds like they are also still in the honeymoon period. And your right, if all your relationship is is dating at the weekend you will be blissfully happy.

But when it's your dh working away it can be hard. We argues less when dh worked away but I feel we weren't as close. It was also very hard having two babies to care for completely on my own all week. The house stayed lovley and clean and I didn't have to cook a proper dinner so swings and roundabouts.

aww don't be a grump... you say they are recently separated so it must also be a relatively new relationship - all loved up and in those blissful early days. When its early days then being 'blissful' should absolutely be normal - and you know what even when its not early days then be happy for people that still feel 'blissful' and super special connection...

Yep this is true. I only saw my DH at weekends for the first three years of our relationship and we rarely ever argued at all. Quite sickeningly happy I suppose, then we bought a house together and it all went to shit . Nah, we still get along most of the time but living together 24/7 does inevitably change the dynamics.

My friend has been in a relationship for almost a year and they only see one another at weekends. As far as she is concerned he is completely perfect in every way. I don’t want to shatter her naivety but she will eventually realise he is not flawless!

Well no OP, of course they wouldn’t be so blissfully happy if they were stuck at home with squabbling children. That’s ridiculous, everybody was happier when they were dating and having fun before the monotony of every day life kicked in. You sound bitter tbh.

FYI I’ve been with DP for 6 years. We’ve never lived together and we don’t particularly want to. We only spend weekends and holidays together and we’re just as capable of having a blazing row as anybody.She’s just helped me move house and yesterday she drove 50 miles here and home again to accompany me to my DS’s leavers service at school. I was with her at her father’s death bed, so it’s not all parties and fun.

When its early days then being 'blissful' should absolutely be normal

^this

But actually it can be quite intense going form not seeing them at all during the week, to seeing them 24h day for the entire weekend, and pressure to be having the most amazing time doing fun things all the time

My first thought was 'urgh, Id have to shave my legs and make an effort each weekend' which makes me sound like a filthy pigwoman (swear Im not!)

Ah, if theyre both recently separated then theyre still in the honeymoon phase and doing nice things at the weekend is probably a refreshing change.

I see my fella for about 24 hours most weekends and an hour or two in the week and we never argue because we don't have all the domestic crap to deal with.

This works brilliantly for us as we're both independent people with our own lives, but I know it wouldn't suit everyone.

Nothing wrong with being happy. My partner and I don’t live together after 6 years. It would make our relationship more difficult so why change it?
We’ve both lived with partners in the past and it didn’t work out.