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AIBU to think she’s rude

39 replies

Imawomanontheedge · 23/07/2019 12:35

Went out for a family meal about 10 of us.
DH niece sat opposite myself and DD . Niece turns to her own DH and asks “ Do I really have to be nice as I’ve had to be nice all day at work? “ WTF

OP posts:
Juells · 23/07/2019 16:15

^^ this

AllFourOfThem · 23/07/2019 16:23

So it’s a drip feed. Hmm You’re obviously going to keep coming back until people agree with you and say YANBU so why bother posting?

EKGEMS · 23/07/2019 16:35

StVincent Do we have to be nice to you after all the OP is tired

Namechangeforthiscancershit · 23/07/2019 16:37

What the husband said is way more of a worry. Why didn't you put that in your OP?

Well, two fewer Christmas presents to buy.

ItsWitchingTime · 23/07/2019 17:29

Why is the husband saying that a worry?

Just ignore them op and keeo your distance or adopt her her own attitude back

Rachelover40 · 23/07/2019 17:45

Does it really matter? Presumably you don't encounter her that often.

Original poster
Imawomanontheedge · 23/07/2019 18:29

StVincent
I personally don’t think I’m the one being rude here . I’ve gone out of my way to accommodate her when ever we’ve had family get togethers . She was the one that insisted the meal was on that night and booked the restaurant. Everyone else thought it would be best on a night when she didn’t work and considering she only works one day a week there’s 6 more nights out of a week she could have chosen . But no she had to have it her way .

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SheSaidNoFuckThat · 23/07/2019 18:39

You don't like her and she doesn't like you, that's family for you, just suck it up and put on the niceties when you see her

MzHz · 23/07/2019 18:57

Well then, she is that open about her dislike for you, her h isn’t taking her on over it.

Next time they don’t need to come at all

In fact when and if there is something else arranged either be busy yourself or tell her that seeing as she really didn’t want to be there the last time and it was such an effort for her to be barely civil, that her H gave the game away completely so that she absolutely shouldn’t feel she should attend anything you’re all at in future

Seriously, why do you put up with this shit?

LittleLongDog · 23/07/2019 19:05

Why do you think she doesn’t like you? As in, what caused the dislike?

Sagradafamiliar · 23/07/2019 20:02

Clearly she wasn't in the mood for a 10-party family meal. Who ever is?!

15YemenRoad · 23/07/2019 21:53

I think you may be reading too much into this. The conversation was between husband and wife without full context you cannot assume you know what it was about.

Whether she was being fake nice, as long as she hasn't caused you trouble, don't give this head space.

Why would you assume she doesn't like you anyway? Are there issues between you?

15YemenRoad · 23/07/2019 21:56

Just seen your update, to be fair, it doesn't sound like you like her very much either. You're clearly resentful to the point you've made a thread online about a conversation that was not directed to you.

You don't like her, she apparently does not like you. So what's the problem? She hasn't caused you any direct issues has she?

newmomof1 · 24/07/2019 06:17

She probably wanted the meal on the same day she worked so she has the other days to do whatever she wants.

It's never nice to have a day to yourself but have plans on the evening. It means you're constantly clock-watching.

OP pretty much everyone says YABU and you're still arguing so why bother asking?

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