AIBU to expect a card to arrive on time?

[pintsizedblondie]

It was my birthday late last week. Two of my oldest friends text and said they'd sent a card by post. It didn't arrive that day, nor the next day or today. AIBU to be really fucked off that they can't even be arsed to get a card to me on time? I consider myself quite a thoughtful person and always make sure cards and presents are sent before the actual day. The sheer lack of thoughtfulness has just made me feel pretty shitty TBH.

Is it an 80th ?

I think you shouldn't dwell on birthday cards not arriving on time, life's too short to worry about this type of stuff.

You should tell them how really fucked off you are. It would save them the bother of buying, writing and posting a card to you ever again.

I think you are being ridiculous.

I sent a 1st class locally and it took two days to arrive. I sent a 2nd class on a Monday and it didn't arrive until Saturday - just to other side of London.

You got your happy birthday wishes by text on the day, that's good enough for me. YABU to expect cards on the day too.

Oh no, this is exactly what I have done today. It was my good friends birthday yesterday & I have only managed to send the card off today.

I was fully aware of her birthday date and had many moments over the course of this month glancing at my calendar and thinking ‘it’s coming up soon, I must get the card sent off’ but unfortunately I have been virtually bedbound with hyperemesis for weeks, have a toddler to care for when I can barely look after myself and also have a lot of planning to do for our house renovation. I only realised the date had crept up on me at around 3am the morning of.

I know it must feel shitty but sometimes people might have more going on than you think? The same friend of mine was also late with my card this year, I didn’t take it personally as I knew she had an imminent operation coming up which must have been on her mind more than other things.

I can see why you're upset but honestly, sending cards in the post nowadays is a huge faff.
I only post cards to my parents and it means going to buy the card, remembering to buy a stamp (or if not near a post office, a whole book of stamps) and then posting the card. Our only collection is at 09:25am, so I have to remember to post it early or the day before so it gets there on time.

I just wish everyone else happy birthday via Facebook, text, phone or in person.

I am in Scotland, may or may not be relevant. I posted sixty christening invites first class, the same day. All the ones in Scotland arrived within a day or two. I text cousin in England four days later and she didn't have it. I then had to work my way down the bloody list of sixty and discovered all twenty to England and one to Scotland had not been delivered. I waited a week and was just about to redo them when they all arrived. On day EIGHT. We are talking a matter of forty miles in some cases, less than I drive to work.