to be annoyed with my mum for trying to get someone to give me a job that she must know I could not do ?

[nutcracker]

I probably am being a bit unreasonable, as I am sure she is only trying to help but even so.

This bloke that she knows is a salesman and he has said that I can do some cold calling for him from home. I'd get paid £5 for every appointment I secured and then £25 for every sale that he got from it.

This is absolutly the wrong job for me. I get stressed and nervy ringing unknown people for anything, nevermind people who I would be supposed to sell something to, i'd absolutly hate it. I am such a shy and nevry person lately, i'd end up in tears by the end of the first day, and I'd have thought my mum knew me well enough to know this.

I think I am kind of irked that she thinks I am not capable of getting a job myself too. I am trying so hard to find something, and getting so many knock backs from jobs I know I could do that it is sending my self confidence even lower.

Yes I need the money, but there is just no way I can do it.

I am waiting to hear back from about 3 jobs at the mo, so fingers crossed. Unfortunatly 2 are with the NHS who seem to take months to even offer you an interview.

I know I wil prob get flamed for saying this but with the ironing couldn't it just be cash in hand?

Cleaning and ironing is reliable.
You do the same person one morning a week or whatever.
You build up more people as word of mouth spreads.
Fingers crossed for one of those jobs though xxx

Nutcracker, what about preparing a CV and then sending it to any suitable local employers who might have a vacancy come up?

Also what about finding a correspondence course in afield you are interested in e.g. childcare, health etc. Most offer concessions and payment plans. This will also look good on your CV, give you something to occupy your mind, and when people ask what you are doing now ds is at school, you can say, 'I am studying for my xxx in xxx'.

Two of my cousins are classroom assistants (one has SEN) and both started out as volunteers, their schools decided to train both of them up and gave them full-time jobs. Maybe volunteering somewhere might be a way in (I know it doesn't help cash-wise though.)

YANBU - I'd rather do sex chat lines than cold calling!!

don't do cash in hand, nutty. all it takes is one idiot to dob you in for inadequate creasing of trousers and you're facing a penalty.

the benefits agency is used to dealing with fluctuating incomes under the tax threshold and they have procedures. you would have to keep books, but not to an onerous degree. might be useful as an easy stopgap.

YANBU at all. Cold-calling is a horrifically depressing thing for anyone to do who is feeling at all emotionally vulnerable. You are completely right to not even consider it.

I spoke to my mum and told her I wouldn't be doing it. She thought I should at least try it, but I told her there was no way.

I'd rather clean loos before doing cold calling.

Anyway, have just completed this mornings online job search and there is nothing there for me today . Looks like I am not even going to get an interview for a nursery one I applied to either. Interviews are this Friday but I haven't heard a thing yet so not looking good.