We have no DC. I've recently started taking meds for ADHD, which are helping, but they're also making me feel more irritated with DH's lack of willingness to be a normal functioning adult. He only wants to clean when I'm also cleaning, even though I often do chores when he's not here.
The thing that most pisses me off about him is the way he talks about household management. It's all "we should do the shopping" and "we should look at the mortgage" when he really just means I should do it. When he does try and do stuff he keeps bothering me about everything! It's so unfair and annoying.
I work from home and when he comes home he'll start about all the stuff that "we" should look into. I've told him how unfair he is many times and I'm so fucking sick of it all, it's exhausting. We even have a cleaner, so it's not so much hard scrubbing that needs doing. I love DH dearly and he can be really awesome, but I feel as though I am growing up and he's forever stuck in childhood. He doesn't seem to understand it's affecting me this much
How do I get it through to him that I've had it up to here with his behaviour? I don't want to leave, I just want to be able to rely on him a little in this regard. It's hard enough for me as it is 