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Texts from other women?

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Wolfie26 · 22/07/2019 13:18

I've been feeling really awful mentally for the past 6 weeks or so. I've really never felt like this in my life and I can't tell anymore if I'm losing it completely or if I'm right to feel uneasy about this.

On Friday around midnight I was woken up by a text message. Checked my phone and it wasn't me. Another two 'pings' later and I realised it was my partners phone. I tried to wake him as thought it may be important if someone was texting at that time of night. I picked the phone up to pass to him and noticed it was three text messages from a woman I have never heard of.

The first said 'Oops looks like you forgot to respond there ...'

The second was a photo of this woman and the third a message saying 'let me know if you want to catch up sometime. But there's a mini version from me.'

I didn't read any further than what was on the screen as he has a password that I don't know.

Partner states she is just an old friend and that she messaged him out of the blue last week. He sent a few messages back and forth, he thought she might be drunk so he stopped.

Personally it made me feel a bit uneasy and I don't know why. Like I said, my mental health isn't ideal at the moment and I don't feel I can trust my own judgement. I just feel like the gap between texts, the time of the text etc was all a bit off. I don't think anything is going on but I get the feeling maybe she would like there to be. He has also stopped using WhatsApp as he doesn't want her to see he has been online and not replied.

This kind of thing has happened before where women will be messaging him etc who like him in a romantic way. That's not just my thoughts, some of these women have openly admitted to colleagues etc that they 'fancy' him. We work in the same place and despite it being against policy and no other colleagues doing it, a lot of women seem to end up with his personal number.

He's not gods gift to women or anything amazing to look at so I don't understand why this keeps happening unless he is entertaining it somehow. It's just this horrible grey area for me where he's not openly doing anything wrong but there's always seems to be some women hanging around and I never seem to know if that's just them (as he says) or he is encouraging it.

Or, as I said, I'm just completely losing it and need to get professional help.

OP posts:
wineandroses1 · 22/07/2019 13:29

The easiest way for these women to get his personal number is by him giving it to them. And that is the most likely way they got it, unless he is so remarkably handsome that they all stalked him until they found it for themselves. I'd say he is encouraging it/them. And you are not completely losing it.

Time for the chat. He either stops flirting with and giving out his phone number to random ladies, or he buggers off.

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