I'm feeling really pissed off this morning. I have name changed for this. I've been in this job about 10 years. I tried desperately hard to find another job this year and last year but there is just nothing that is in my field at the moment and as I'm a single parent with no support from my exh, it's important I stay in work.
when I got divorced from exh years ago, I didn't tell work as I knew that every little thing I did would be interpreted as 'she is affected by the divorce'. I told work about a year later as it was going through court and I had to take time off to go to the hearings and my boss said 'I knew there was something as your work had deteriorated'. It hadn't! Then every time there was a big project and a minor issue would come up I would get 'well it's clear you were distracted' except I wasn't! It was just normal work stuff.
on friday my dp was admitted as an emergency to hospital with a potentially fatal condition but he's fine and will recover. I have had to tell work today because there's a chance he will be operated on this afternoon. I've come in but will leave at lunch time. My boss has just said 'well that's too bad as I won't see you and you are working on this urgent project and now I'll have to give it to someone else. It was clear to me your eye wasn't on it'. Except it was...said urgent project I worked on all last week (and it's finished) except he didn't bother to speak to me about it. Today he's decided as I won't be in for one afternoon that he now wants to speak to me at exactly the time I won't be here. He could speak to me this morning or even this evening and I've said I will make myself available but he has now said he's handing the project to someone else, a man who has literally made my life unbearable at work and is trying to take my job.
One colleague at work said maybe he's trying to make me feel better by taking stress away and I could be misreading it but it doesn't feel like that! so AIBU to think next time I just won't bother to tell them anything? (for context, I am the only senior woman at work and I am surrounded by alpha males)