Birthday aibu *stamps feet*

[NewYoiker]

So it was my birthday yesterday and completely shit.
I was meant to see my mum on Friday but it rained so much that the country roads that you have to drive down to eventually get to the motorway we're flooded (thank god I had the sense to watch a 4x4 go through the 'puddle' it's wheels disappeared and it's non amphibious exhaust failed as water went down it so i helped them get out and call the AA but then I did a 100 point turn in the road and went home. And we lost out on an amazing house as they didn't want a bidding war and went with the first offer which wasn't ours, but no one told us an offer was on the table at either viewing :(

Then on my actual birthday we went to see another house which was a total waste of time as it was tiny and ridiculously unlike the photos, then we went out with friends and my husband had a face on him the entire day as he was tired. (He has resting bitch face). Our friends commented on it it was so bad.

DH gave me the one present that had arrived as the rest he'd ordered from amazon hadn't arrived, and they're a pair of nice running glasses. I don't really run But they are kind of cool.

My grandparents and aunt forgot completely.

But the worst thing is, we were both hungover today and DH still hasn't gone to our neighbours and got the presents that he missed from Amazon. So the only present I got yesterday was a pair of £20 running glasses, and the cake that I sorted out. :( he has been so stressed and worried about his job but it feel like an excuse to just blame so he feels less shit for cocking it up.

Are birthdays always this shit now you're an adult? Aibu to expect him to make a bit of an effort?

Disclaimer- I did have a massive whinge about it today and he has apologised a lot but it just feels a bit shit.

At least my cake is amazing ❤️⚡️

He's asked how he can make up for it but I don't know what to say. :( I do love himself he has acknowledged he's taken me for granted but it took him fucking up my birthday to realise it.

Oh that's sad OP. Happy birthday! Have a 🤗 and 🍷🎁🌹!! 😁

OP Happy belated Birthday.

Its rubbish when your birthday goes wrong. You will have plenty of people piling on who swear they mark their birthdays by punching themselves in the throat and rubbing their face in the cat litter box. But if you are.one for birthdays than a lack of 'effort' for your special day is demoralising. I do think you were a victim of timing - mad rain that stopped your journey. It was also bad timing that your house search/woes fell over your birthday.

DH could have got his finger out regarding the presents at the neighbours but it seems you have addressed that with him.

Can you arrange a belated lunch, dinner or outing to.make up for it.

I feel your pain op,and I'm sorry you have had a disappointing birthday. 🎈 Here's a balloon to celebrate.

I was 40 last week. I organised my own birthday present. Dh got me the cake he wanted rather than the one I asked for and most upsetting, he didn't do anything about the dc getting me a present. A box of sweets would have been enough and dd was really gutted that she had nothing wrapped for me . We are away now for a couple of days and I said we might go for a nice dinner to mark my birthday, but as I haven't organised anything, I know we won't. I know he loves me, but I don't feel very special right now.

I’m sorry your birthday was so shite, I can see why you feel disappointed.
But it sounds like your day was going a little tits up anyway and when you lost the houses you wanted and then the weather was crap etcetc you felt let down because you didn’t get made a fuss of by your husband.
I get it. We all want to feel special on our birthday however old we are.
(Another but)
You are a grown woman. Let your husband know that it’s important that your birthday is recognised and marked, there’s no gain in having a go at him after the event.
You are not 6. It’s not all cake, unicorns and surprises.
When you’re ‘grown up’ a good birthday is being shown how much you’re loved by those that matter

@KC225 I know it really is crap! He has booked a meal at a nice new restaurant for Friday but it's frustrating.