To celebrate the fact that I actually said 'No' to a favour?

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A friend asked me to do them a favour that involved staying at their property for a couple of nights for 'security reasons' while she went away with another friend, I really didn't want to, I like being in my own home, my own bed, telly etc and without getting into too much discussion, I've actually said No, not as direct as that, went into a few excuses (still not that brave) , but i must say I feel liberated, trying not too feel too guilty , have really had to think about this one, but starting to feel I can be a bit more selfish as I get older , it's nice to put what I want first for a change?

Woo good for you!

Good for you.

Took me years to start saying no to people, it is indeed very liberating.

Would you have then had to leave your property empty for the duration? If so it’s a very selfish request!

It feels so liberating doesn't it? I've started doing this and it's nice not to feel guilty for not being a doormat!

The only time I ever ask someone to house sit is if they have moved out of the area or country and visit regularly to see family/friends (because the free accom/own space might be worth feeding the cats once a day). Otherwise it’s a big imposition. Like you, I like my own home!

It gets easier as the guilt starts to fade the more you say no.
Also, be prepared to find out who your friends are and who the users are.

I must admit I did question why she asked me?, we've been on/off friends for years, no fallout, just change of circumstance, now back on, I just didn't want to do it, feel loads better now, like a weight off my mind, hate feeling guilty but it's like a problem that wasn't mine (but felt like it) has gone. You've all made me feel so much better, thank you all :)

That is brilliant. Really well done. Learn from this and keep going. So important and I can totally relate to you. I’m always amazed at myself when I manage to say no to someone. It’s a great feeling.

Well done. As someone who has spent the majority of my life being a people pleaser and who has also very recently learned to say no, I commend you. It’s not easy and I’m finding myself up against a fair lot of indignation given these people had come to always expect a yes from me... but too bad!

Keep at it, OP!