A friend asked me to do them a favour that involved staying at their property for a couple of nights for 'security reasons' while she went away with another friend, I really didn't want to, I like being in my own home, my own bed, telly etc and without getting into too much discussion, I've actually said No, not as direct as that, went into a few excuses (still not that brave) , but i must say I feel liberated, trying not too feel too guilty , have really had to think about this one, but starting to feel I can be a bit more selfish as I get older , it's nice to put what I want first for a change?