I already know I’m being unreasonable but wanted to vent . The friend I would normally discuss this with recently died and I’m missing her good advice and company . But that’s another story.
My SIL is not my favourite person. She is manipulative and selfish. Too many examples to give here.
She’s recently contacted us ( via a birthday card) to basically ask if she can visit. In the past she has just assumed she can and told us when she’s coming ! We are visiting a place near her soon so DH suggested meeting up. She has discovered that we are going to a lovely restaurant and has asked DH to increase the booking. When I expressed my annoyance my DH became very defensive so I backed off and left it to him. I didn’t want her to be the reason we fell out or argued. He is in no doubt how I feel though. It has spoiled , for me , a visit I was really looking forward to.
In addition she has sent him an e mail about another meet up . Without outing myself too much .... this would be at a relatives house ( they will be away . She has always wanted to see their home .... she is nosy ) . I only found out about this because my DH seemed a bit selective when reading out her latest e mail to me. I became suspicious and this morning went into our computer and read it for myself. No passwords involved etc. His e mails are open for me to read ..... I never open unread emails though. He had deliberately not read the section to me about this proposed visit.
I don’t want this woman in our lives. She has caused many problems in the past and I always felt she wanted my DH , her older brother, to take her father’s place. In addition, whenever we meet up we somehow seem to end up paying for one thing or another. My DH is kind and generous but it is OUR money not just his !!!
At the moment I am feeling angry ( with her and my DH ). I hate feeling this way but the only way I can seem to cope is by not talking about it and bottling it up. I know that if I said what I feel to my DH he would be disgusted with me ...... I’m sort of disgusted with myself to be honest. But she has got right under my skin.... not altogether sure why.
My friend isn’t here to help .... I could tell others how I feel but I’m not sure they’d understand. Thanks for reading this waffle. I’m pretty sure I’m going to get told to suck it up !!